Started by Mintprincess, August 30, 2016, 07:32:58 PM
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Quote from: CuriousEyes on August 31, 2016, 11:56:20 AMOh, bah. I just realized I might not have read deeply enough - these may be things you aren't comfortable discussing. Apologies and disregard if so.
QuoteI'd be interested in hearing about that - if your partner was/is resistant to the idea, how the topic was broached, any anecdotes about the triumphs or difficulties along the way. As someone who quietly struggles with the idea of monogamy himself, I can imagine it must have been very difficult to try to get a partner who engaged in a relationship with the expectation of one thing to be told you need another.
Quote from: Mintprincess on September 12, 2016, 04:44:51 PMBut looking back, I could have been both of their girlfriend. And loved it. And enjoyed it. And made them both happy. And I would have been happy. I would have been very happy dating both of them at the same time.
QuoteIn the middle there are people who could probably go either way. They're happy being monogamous - being with multiple people isn't a need - but they could also do it. They could 'be poly'. They don't have an innate need to be monogamous either.
Quote from: Dwarfvader on September 27, 2016, 11:58:25 AMI've been thinking about myself and where do I fall. And I think this describes this rather well for me. So thank you for putting the words together!
Quote from: Al Terego on September 27, 2016, 12:00:13 PMSorry Mint, that was not meant as a criticism, and I failed to convey my point.I would like to apologize if my poor choice of wording offended you, this was never my intent.
QuoteWhat I meant is that poly is not being forced (or forcing yourself) to choose between being with this or that person but rather allowing oneself to be with both (or more).This gives me, as a monogamous person, a starting point from which I can begin to understand this viewpoint.
Quote from: Mintprincess on September 27, 2016, 12:27:17 PMThis is no different than considering the needs of my children
Quote from: AmberStarfire on September 27, 2016, 07:06:11 PMI just wanted to say I'm enjoying reading your blog and you have a lot to say that's spot on.
Quote from: Hurricane on September 28, 2016, 03:28:00 AMDo you have kids?
Quote from: Ryven on September 28, 2016, 05:26:40 AMEnjoyable reading, Mint. I'm happy you've taken the steps you have in your journey.It sounds like to me that, being poly isn't so much a 'choice' per se, but rather, we are forced into the monogamy mold. Those who are poly then realize something is 'wrong' when they are in that mold, and choose to explore options of breaking out of it or not. It's a similar sequence to many non-normative human aspects. These kinds of journeys should be shared in order to move them from the non-normative to the normative and thus get rid of the societal 'molds' we have.
Quote from: CuriousEyes on September 29, 2016, 07:43:31 AMA random question - do you have any thoughts on legal issues surrounding poly individuals? Things you'd want to see changed, what consequences or benefits might be involved, etc?Off the top of my head I had been thinking of how hospitals very recently restricted end of life decisions (or even the right to be in a room to hold a hand) to gay couples under the argument they weren't legally married. I don't know that you personally want to be legally married to multiple people, but it obviously isn't possible in most of the world.
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