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Online Oniya

Re: Dealing with Depression ~ A Personal Point of View
« Reply #1600 on: December 31, 2018, 03:23:19 PM »
Hey Oni...

What's a mix tape? >.>

Anyway, its just a nice feeling to feel that you're not alone, even if the artist doesn't really get it though I'm pretty sure Tyler Joseph does, it just helps to connect in a way you feel that is valuable.

It's how my generation was supposedly going to 'destroy the music industry'.  They couldn't blame millennials yet, after all.  ;D

Online Remiel

Re: Dealing with Depression ~ A Personal Point of View
« Reply #1601 on: December 31, 2018, 03:51:09 PM »
It's how my generation was supposedly going to 'destroy the music industry'. 

I'm pretty sure Napster did that.


Online Giantmutantcrab

Re: Dealing with Depression ~ A Personal Point of View
« Reply #1602 on: December 31, 2018, 06:54:08 PM »
I'm pretty sure Napster did that.

Yep. No one ever shared parts of their music collection to others before the series of tubes known as the internets.

Online Remiel

Re: Dealing with Depression ~ A Personal Point of View
« Reply #1603 on: December 31, 2018, 07:24:23 PM »
Sorry.  Sarcasm doesn't translate well over text.   :P

Online TheLionKing

Re: Dealing with Depression ~ A Personal Point of View
« Reply #1604 on: January 09, 2019, 04:41:52 PM »
I’ve been dealing with depression and anxiety since I was a preteen. I was bullied tremendously in school and often felt like I was this abomination that no one could stand to be around. To this day I feel this way and can’t accept compliments without denying them. I find friends and I feel like a burden to them or I feel like I drive them nuts with my insecurities. I’ve been known to have panic attacks when friends don’t answer my texts or calls. In my mind they’ve had enough of me and this is their way of telling me Off. So I end up pushing them away on purpose and isolating myself. I’ve become akin to a turtle.

Most people have told me to go seek help and I can’t force myself to do so. So I try to use different media to get my mind off things. I try to deal with it on my own because I’m afraid of judgement. I’m constantly worried about what others think of me. Sometimes I’m successful at controlling both but other times it takes me weeks and some sleepless nights to get myself back to feeling ok.

Online Remiel

Re: Dealing with Depression ~ A Personal Point of View
« Reply #1605 on: January 09, 2019, 05:01:49 PM »
I can certainly understand, LionKing.  I think that our dysfunctional behavioral traits were created from trauma like the kind you describe, and are a kind of extreme over-reaction toward anything that reminds us of this trauma.

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Re: Dealing with Depression ~ A Personal Point of View
« Reply #1606 on: January 10, 2019, 03:00:42 AM »
I can certainly understand, LionKing.  I think that our dysfunctional behavioral traits were created from trauma like the kind you describe, and are a kind of extreme over-reaction toward anything that reminds us of this trauma.



+1 I agree wholeheartedly.

Online TheLionKing

Re: Dealing with Depression ~ A Personal Point of View
« Reply #1607 on: January 10, 2019, 10:27:14 AM »
Certainly makes sense to me. I’m trying to work on not driving my friends nuts.

Online Remiel

Re: Dealing with Depression ~ A Personal Point of View
« Reply #1608 on: January 10, 2019, 11:04:23 AM »
Well, self-awareness is a good first step toward this.  Also, pre-emptive communication can also help: "Hey guys, sorry if I've been acting moody or obnoxious.  I'm going through a lot right now.  If I do anything that annoys or upsets you, please let me know."

Offline colerie1974

Re: Dealing with Depression ~ A Personal Point of View
« Reply #1609 on: January 11, 2019, 12:26:35 AM »
So here goes nothing...
  I am drowning and nobody seems to notice, or perhaps, to care to throw me a life jacket. I feel like the world would be a better place without me. I hurt from the moment I open my eyes until I pass out at night.
  Don't get me wrong...I am not contemplating suicide or even using self-harm to soothe. I am just in a very dark and lonely place right now and feel like I could completely lose my sanity at any moment.
  Thanks for listening.

         xoxo,
             ~Cole

Offline blue bunny sparkle

Re: Dealing with Depression ~ A Personal Point of View
« Reply #1610 on: January 11, 2019, 07:05:09 AM »
So here goes nothing...
  I am drowning and nobody seems to notice, or perhaps, to care to throw me a life jacket. I feel like the world would be a better place without me. I hurt from the moment I open my eyes until I pass out at night.
  Don't get me wrong...I am not contemplating suicide or even using self-harm to soothe. I am just in a very dark and lonely place right now and feel like I could completely lose my sanity at any moment.
  Thanks for listening.

         xoxo,
             ~Cole


Colerie I am so sorry you are feeling that way. Depression sucks. Darkness sucks. It is so hard to see how much people really care when we're in smack dab in it. It is hard to see how they even could, but they do. They do! Those people who care are around if we let them in, but it seems the hard part is reaching out when the day is dark. Please take care. You are not alone. My PM box is always available if you need someone to listen.

Online Remiel

Re: Dealing with Depression ~ A Personal Point of View
« Reply #1611 on: January 11, 2019, 08:03:15 AM »
So here goes nothing...
  I am drowning and nobody seems to notice, or perhaps, to care to throw me a life jacket. I feel like the world would be a better place without me. I hurt from the moment I open my eyes until I pass out at night.
  Don't get me wrong...I am not contemplating suicide or even using self-harm to soothe. I am just in a very dark and lonely place right now and feel like I could completely lose my sanity at any moment.
  Thanks for listening.

         xoxo,
             ~Cole

I've certainly been there, Cole.  The world can certainly be a cold and lonely place sometimes.  My heart goes out to you.

Offline Mirrah

Re: Dealing with Depression ~ A Personal Point of View
« Reply #1612 on: January 13, 2019, 01:11:28 AM »
So here goes nothing...
  I am drowning and nobody seems to notice, or perhaps, to care to throw me a life jacket. I feel like the world would be a better place without me. I hurt from the moment I open my eyes until I pass out at night.
  Don't get me wrong...I am not contemplating suicide or even using self-harm to soothe. I am just in a very dark and lonely place right now and feel like I could completely lose my sanity at any moment.
  Thanks for listening.

         xoxo,
             ~Cole

It's difficult. Depression is difficult in so many ways. It can make one pull inward, it can make it difficult to share things like thoughts, emotions, and the pain can feel so strong. I'm sorry you're in that dark place right now. Like others who may have reached out to you, you're always welcome to message me as well, even just to vent or chat, if it'd help you in any way. I can't offer anything, but if a stranger listening is enough, you're welcome to my internet shoulder and ear.

Online Oniya

Re: Dealing with Depression ~ A Personal Point of View
« Reply #1613 on: January 14, 2019, 02:30:32 PM »
'That's your anxiety talking.'

On a gut level, I feel this is the wrong thing for someone to say, but I'm having a hard time verbalizing why beyond a simmering, seething sense of 'How dare you say that!' 

Offline AcademicCuriosity9110

Re: Dealing with Depression ~ A Personal Point of View
« Reply #1614 on: January 14, 2019, 06:38:53 PM »
'That's your anxiety talking.'

On a gut level, I feel this is the wrong thing for someone to say, but I'm having a hard time verbalizing why beyond a simmering, seething sense of 'How dare you say that!'

I hope this isn't too presumptuous of me, but, if I may, perhaps it's because such a statement feels like it's robbing one of their agency, making them feel less in control and at the same time trivializing what is actually a serious condition. It's dismissing one's feelings and concerns as invalid by attempting to attribute them to the anxiety. It's disrespectful and belittling.

Online Remiel

Re: Dealing with Depression ~ A Personal Point of View
« Reply #1615 on: January 14, 2019, 06:52:39 PM »
Exactly what AcademicCuriousity said.  It's on par with "you're just feeling that way because of your PMS." 

Online Oniya

Re: Dealing with Depression ~ A Personal Point of View
« Reply #1616 on: January 14, 2019, 09:41:23 PM »
Thanks guys - that puts a good 'technical' phrasing on it.  I was trying to find it in those 'what not to say to a person with _____', but that one seems to have been missed. 

Somewhat to be expected from a broham who thinks that 'being introverted is just something edgy you've held onto since middle school.  You just need to socialize more.'  (I can't wait until June....)

Offline AcademicCuriosity9110

Re: Dealing with Depression ~ A Personal Point of View
« Reply #1617 on: January 14, 2019, 10:33:05 PM »
Thanks guys - that puts a good 'technical' phrasing on it.  I was trying to find it in those 'what not to say to a person with _____', but that one seems to have been missed. 

Somewhat to be expected from a broham who thinks that 'being introverted is just something edgy you've held onto since middle school.  You just need to socialize more.'  (I can't wait until June....)

Glad to be able to help.