I was going to post this here but got distracted by the medication/anti-medication debate.
I mentioned that I had recently pointed someone at his thread, who didn't realise there were any other Aspies here on E. In the process I posted this little homily, which I thought was quite deep and potentially helpful:
Everyone thinks they are alone. It's crushing. And then we find others who have what we have, and suddenly the world seems that little bit brighter. We are not alone, there are people who have what we have. We are all in this together, we can help each other, support each other. Even as we write smutty stories to get away from our everyday lives, we can become a community within a community, a group of people who share a common interest of adult role-playing on-line and a common bond of Asperger's Syndrome.
This thread, started by Dashenka because she felt alone and upset at being diagnosed as an Aspie, is probably going to help a lot of people on E. I certainly hope it does.
If someone says to you "I have Asperger's Syndrome", point them here. Let's all celebrate our abnormality together! *giggles*
Just as an asside, does anyone else find that roleplaying on-line like this, and chatting to people we are never going to meet face to face, helps?
What I mean is, before I started on-line rp-ing, I would NEVER have been able to work retail. Walking up to someone and saying "Hello, how can i help?" is actually really scary. 90% of people are really nice, but there's that 10% who aren't. There's the dissatisfied customer who has come in to complain, there's the arrogant bleep who wants what he wants and gets shirty when told he can't have it because he'll burn his house down, there's the gypsies who "just want a bit of pipe", and while you're getting the bit of pipe, the rest of them are pinching stuff off the shelves...
Well, that job is over for me now, and I won't be going back there, but the principal applies. Dealing with people day to day is hard, because I have no idea how they are going to react and it scares the shit out of me. Dealing with situations in a safe, fictional setting that are far more exreme really helps, in so far as I can, for example, practice having my character stand up for herself, and see what happens. If i works, I can think about how it worked in the RP when confronted with a real life situation, and maybe apply some of the same principals. If it doesn't I know not to try it...!
No, I'm not saying hat we should reat roleplaying as practice for real life, but what I am saying is that meeting people and making friends in this safe environment - and it is safe! - gives the confidence to attempt it in real life, dealing with fictional people who want to hurt us fictionally, and overcoming them can give confidence to deal with real people who want to get heir own way.
But most important, i think, is the fact that everyone on his site is beautiful in the eyes of their friends. No matter if you're a fat ugly 50 year old dyke in real life - Did I say you? I meant me! - on hear everyone sees me as young, attractive and sexy, and that is a real confidence booster!