That last point reminds me of another article I've read, though I can't find it right now. I think it was from Huffington Post, but it was written by a woman suggesting that we stop complimenting little girls on their appearance first
, and instead acknowledge their personality.
The anecdote she brought about was going to see a friend's daughter who enjoyed reading. Her first impulse was to sit down and tell the girl how beautiful or adorable she looked, but instead talked about the book the young girl was reading, that the article's author was a writer, and several things along that train of thought. The girl was enthused because very rarely did people talk to her about reading and writing. The idea is that young girls, be they toddlers or children and even growing up, hear about their appearance first
, and thus get the impression that it is the most important thing about them (even if it is a subconscious thought or belief).
I've been trying to implement this myself, but it's hard. I already thrashed about when my Aunt bought my niece a kitchen set when she was three years old (how about a play-CEO-desk, dang it!), and trying to talk to my niece about how well she reads, writes and draws is nearly impossible to make a difference. We go to her dance recitals, and when it is all done everyone says "You looked so cute up there!" rather than "You did your routine so well! You're a good dancer!"
Boys don't necessarily get this sort of treatment, and even if they do, it's still colored differently. The only sort of physical discussion about my friend's 9-or-10 month old is that he's a pretty hefty size. I myself have picked him up and joked about how the poor lad has Richard Nixon chin. But as he gets older I imagine this will stop, as I've always seen people ask my younger male cousins things like what they're playing, how school has been, and how much they've grown. And it's not "My, you've grown to be so handsome!". Not until they're a teenager at least (and I remember the first time my grand-mom gave me such a compliment it caught me off guard). When they see my niece? "You've grown, and look at your beautiful hair! Oh my, you're so cute/beautiful!"
I'm sorry, all this time I've spent blabbing on the topic I could have been finding the article instead.
Actually, I didn't realize the article you linked was not only the same website, but the same author. Here is the article I was referencing.
I imagine she's more eloquent and concise about the point than I am.
Though, to the article you had linked, I found it a bit interesting in the detail gone through. Aside from something like never really noticing eye-lashes anyway, and the only time I even recall noticing a woman's eyebrows is 1) when they look like Hermione Granger's, or 2) are so thin they look stenciled on, I've noticed women tend to pick things out in a lot more detail. Sitting with my roommates while at College, we'd often be watching TV and simply say something along the lines of "I'd hit it". Yes, it's still crude and debasing, and it turns out I like more meat on a woman than my roommates, but for the most part there was very little none of us wouldn't "hit". My friend's now-wife sits down while we're watching The Producers (the newer one), we all see Uma Thurman, the men go "I'd hit it", and she starts to go to great lengths to detail how Uma Thurman is a "but-her-face". I mean, I always thought Uma Thurman had a funky nose, but evidently she's got about ten-thousand things wrong with her?
I started paying more attention to hearing women talk about other women after that, and be it girls watching TV or other girls they know, and it struck me pretty hard. I've NEVER heard men discuss a woman's physical appear to such great, and at times vicious, detail. I wonder if it's a reflection of how each gender is taught in terms of the importance of physical appearance. Men are labeled as being more visual, but the first thing people mention about us isn't our appearance.
I dunno. Just a lot of thoughts on the issue, especially now that I have a niece and have been forced into viewing the world in a much different manner.