I'm not a typical straight guy, I find sports completely uninteresting and I enjoy socialization an awful lot. I guess the point of divergence with my personality and the stereotypical gay dude is probably obsession with fashion and trends (though I honestly don't think that stereotype is that accurate at all from the gay men I've known).
Same here, I'm not much of one for sports, especially watching them. Playing them has always been a touchy thing for me as my personality doesn't lead to very organized based events, plus a lot of organized groups I went into always had a bunch of jerks in it.
As for the fashion bit, I have enough to let me know what looks good on me pretty much intuitively and I can figure out what looks good on another person and such. Other than that there isn't much more to say about it as I don't have an obsession or this dying need to look good all the time. Hell sometimes I just go 'meh' and throw something clean (or somewhat clean >.>) on and don't bother with my hair and sometimes (like now) I forget what a razor is.
There are certainly some traits that the gay men I've known possess that I typically associate with straight females, and some traits that the gay women I've known possess that are typically associated with straight men. All of which is kind of mystifying to me because a great deal of gender-based behavior is entirely cultural and homosexuals do not identify as transexuals; the two concepts are disjoint.
A good point as I associate with being a gay male. Meaning two separate things, my sexuality being that of homosexual, exclusively homosexual, and a great deal of being masculine in terms of my gender identity. I have traits from both sides and inbetween, but I have yet to meet a person who doesn't. I'm just so far into the masculine side of the spectrum that that is where I associate with being.
I guess what I'm musing about is what motivates these differences between straight men and gay men that often creates a gap and makes being friends a challenge. As a gay man, do you feel like there is a stereotype out there you have to live up to like straight men do? Do you think society has "roles" that homosexuals are expected to fill much as it does for heterosexuals? And if so, where do bisexuals fall; are all of our personalities choreographed to some extent?
Well for the challenge bit, there was something (on E if I remember) that someone said that made me laugh and yet it made sense in a way. Perhaps straight men feel that since they sometimes objectify and sexualize their female counterparts, that perhaps they are uncomfortable with the idea of the same being done to them by another male. I know that I don't really like being objectified, by anyone and whenever someone starts to or has (as someone did recently, blech) I find it a bit crude.
And no, I have never been one to fit to any standard that might be put to me, either implied or overt. I was raised and predisposed to not caring what others think of me and just be myself. In a world where you can be anything, why be anything but yourself you know? What I associate with being is formed from who I actually am not what others expect of me, and I think far too many people lose sight of who they are in the midst of who they think they should be.
(I can't really speak for too many others in my lifestyle, as I don't really have all that many friends who are gay/lesbian. A lot of the gay men I have known fit the bill of those following a stereotype and it gets under my skin, mostly because the 'gay world' can be catty, shallow, self-absorbed and treacherous and I don't really like to 'play' like that. I would rather fight and die in the sun then to live and attack from the shadows, and far too many in the 'gay world' prefer those underhanded methods. Sad to think that so many have adhered to something like that.)