Talking isn't going to do a damned bit of good. Those 52% are people who are against gays period. What right to they have to shove their beliefs down everyone's throats? I'm disgusted that such an issue was put up to the voters in the first place because personal prejudice was most definitely a factor.
What? Whoa, this is precisely the bad attitude I was talking about -- since when did the whole "if you're not with us, you're against us" attitude get anyone anywhere? If you make it "us vs. them" issue, that's precisely what you're going to get -- alienating people does not win them over or gain their sympathy towards your cause. To them, allowing homosexuals to marry is shoving that
throats. (And, I might add, if talking doesn't do any good, why would these commercials be a threat?)
Some of that 52% may have been uncomfortable with the semantics alone -- after all, that's half of what this issue is even about is control over a word
. For the sake of argument, we can assume that the majority that voted against it are conservative, probably religious Republicans.Source
(You have to scroll down to the "Which comes closest to your view? Gay couples should be allowed to legally marry. OR, Gay couples should be allowed to form civil unions but not legally marry. OR, There should be no legal recognition of a gay couple's relationship.")
The statistics show over and over again that said more
civil unions for homosexuals than marriage by a very large percentage -- that's hardly as stark as you're putting it ("they're against gays period"). For example, the most recent results for Republicans on the issue shows that their support for civil unions for gays jumps 22% compared to marriage. Writing that off as nothing is incredibly damaging to the gay rights movement, and is (in my estimate) one of the many reasons, as you claim "talking isn't working". Because both sides have their ears and eyes shut to the other, and it's become a wank over who can plug their ears and yell the loudest. Compromise starts at realizing that you may have more in common with your perceived "enemy" than you realize.
The fact is, you don't know their motivation, and to paint them all with the same broad stroke is only self-fulfilling of your "talking doesn't work" attitude because that is the very thing that perpetuates such a thing. I'd wager you'd hate it if somebody did the same to you.
My hope is that this goes through. Those that felt gay marriage would be a threat to hetero marriage somehow will then see for themselves that their fears were unfounded. The hardcore Christians and plain old homophobes are free to have their opinions, but they don't have the right to force it on me.
And nor do you to them. There's two sides to the coin. Nobody has to like anybody, they merely have to respect their rights.
Why don't people get that denying gay marriage is taking something away from people; but allowing it won't change a damned thing for straight people. They can still continue on with their hetero lives. They lose NOTHING.
It's actually not taking anything away. Gays have never had the right to begin with. Just gonna requote myself, though, because I think it's relevant.
Acceptance of gays is not fact -- it is opinion, and because it is an opinion, people need to approach it less like "you need to accept me" and more like "you don't have to agree with me, you just have to respect my rights." This isn't the playground anymore -- nobody has to like or accept anything about you, be it your sexual orientation or the way you dress, but they do have to respect your rights therein. I think appealing to people less on a scale of "if you don't agree, you're a homophobe" would be a good step for diplomacy in that direction. Appeals to people work better, unsurprisingly, when you treat them like they're on the same level as you ;P
I find it kind of funny. I don't disagree with anybody here that homosexuals are deserving of equal rights as anyone else, I have no deep moral or religious qualms with homosexuals, and yet I find myself playing a kind of devil's advocate about the whole thing. I just think it's important to realize that self-righteousness is blinding no matter if the cause you're supporting is the "right" one.