Agreed w/Moraline and Caesar. How society perceives ones normal social outgoing-ness shouldn't be a major factor in how appreciated you are. Not sure if I said quite the same thing there. I would recommend clicking the Wiki link and reading the entry on the book, it gives a bit more detail to the whole thing. And, in a sense, a lot of what Cain talks about we can trace to roots of problems that we have in our society today.
A: Cain points out that just because you can talk a good game doesn't mean you actually have one - speaking talent and actual brainpower are not necessarily correlated with each other. That rings out, to me, of most any publicly elected position. Give enough promises, give enough speeches, get enough people to like you, and bingo! Electable. Never mind that you might be not that much smarter than your constituent, or that you haven't realized promises A, D, and J all clash with each other and you can only make one happen.
B: When I graduated from college, I went to look for work. And everywhere I went, I was given this thing called the 'targeted interview.' Now, I define myself as an introvert. And a lot of the questions I was expected to answer on this interview were definitely extrovert in nature. For example:
Tell me about a time when you had to deal with a difficult customer. -OR- Tell me about your most challenging leadership role. -OR- Tell me about a time when you convinced a group of people to back your position.
Now, I am sure that there are positions out there that demand answers to these questions. But in my case, my answer (at least my mental answer) to all these questions was the same:
"A, you're hiring me to be a bench chemist. I take Substance A and mix it with Substance B to make C. I'm not answering your phones or talking to your suppliers, my supervisor is doing that. If I'm doing that, something is wrong. B: I'm not going to be in a leadership position, you just told me your most inexperienced employee has been here 5 years. I'm the FNG, the guy with no authority. C: See answer B. I'm the FNG, nobody's going to listen to me unless the idea I have is more brilliant than sliced bread."
I hated these interviews. Hated them. Because they would ask me questions like this malarkey that had absolutely nothing to do with how well I was going to do on the job and everything to do with 'Would I join the company basketball team?'
It's funny, people talk about how all sorts of things out there are oppressing free thought, but is anyone talking about how our rampant desire to be just like everybody else might do that?