First, everyone seems to think Menzoberranzan is the only Drow city in existence, and that was what I wanted to choose for my backdrop. It's not, and I actually wanted to create a city for it rather than intrude on already established material. Second, Lolth is a chaotic being, and often revels in pure anarchy. There are times she will abandon the priestesses of a given city for no other reason than to watch them squirm, because she's a fickle bitch like that. The War of the Spider Queen and several other books and series often make a very strong point on that.
The idea behind my story was to have a city that had actually lost favor, for whatever reason, which would give the males the courage to even consider messing with the hierarchy to begin with. And yes, seduction wasn't to be the only method of 'convincing' the women, and it would indeed include some heavy BDSM elements, particularly the bondage element as well as physical AND sexual torture. These women would be bound and used as playthings until they knew nothing else and loved it. It would be a total brainwashing process, a complete mind fuck, if you will. Actually, that kind of makes me want to include a mind flayer or something to make it a literal mind fuck. >.>
The idea is to torture and rape the women until they're nearly mindless, drooling invalids, and then build them back up and mold them into the servants for the men. Of course, my vision was also supposed to borrow from the lore, not follow it to the letter. Logistics and bickering over rules is one of the quickest ways to kill a group game, honestly, so I try not to use established rules and settings too much. It's supposed to be fun for people, not arguing that "This is how it is and we can't deviate from that".
So, if you guys are still with me, then here's what I'm thinking. Ebony, since the Matron is pretty much solely what you had your eye on, and since Xanatos and esclavage stated they would be willing to play daughters, I would give you first crack at Matron, Xanatos the first daughter, and esclavge the scheming second daughter. Foxy expressed interest in a daughter as well, so she could perhaps be the brash third daughter given how she described the character she'd like to play.
So let me know what you all think. Honestly all the logistical arguments are starting to turn what was originally imagined as a fun romp loosely based on a genre I enjoy into a chore for me, and I'm starting to lose interest in my own idea because of it. If we can squash the rule-nazi DM in ourselves for a bit and just come up with something that would be enjoyable for all, then I'm happy to continue. Otherwise, I'm happy to back out and let folks take this over and turn it into another hack and slash dice game.