This is such a complicated question. Rape fantasy isn't a huge turn on for me, but it is slightly, and I will try to explain it.
So, I don't understand how men and women can be into rape scenes. It really has been bugging me for a while now because I know girls who have been raped and I know how much it tore their lives apart!
Rape is horrible. It is truly a vile, despicable act. Most people who have fantasies of rape scenarios (just like most people in general) believe that real
rape is no less that reprehensible.
Sorry if I offend anyone on here, but it really makes me sick to my stomach, ya know?
It's understandable that it would give you that reaction. There is a reason that, in society, we don't go around talking about our sexual wishes with each other. And that's why fictional material online that would generally be disturbing is labelled with a warning.
But I kind of want an answer as to how you can even enjoy someone RAPING you? I mean they aren't even doing it for SEX! They are doing it for POWER!
A clarification: A person who has a sexual fantasy of being raped does NOT enjoy actually being raped. In the fantasy, they identify with a character who goes through a very specific scenario with another character. If somebody agrees to role play or dirty talk about forced sex, they have given their consent for that activity. Consent is what makes the difference here.
But yes, it is the transfer of power that is being eroticised, as much as, or more than, the actual sex act. Why? Well, I don't know.
One theory is that the things that scare us trigger strong emotions, and sex triggers strong emotions, and so the two can become mingled in the brain.
Another theory is that if your first sexual thought was in a sort of non consensual situation, the two ideas could get mixed in your head. For example, you may have needed to undress in a doctor's office, especially if you got sick a lot. (Adults can be less sensitive to a child's need for modesty and pricacy than they would be to another adult.) In your mind, if that nudity was linked to sexual thoughts, then being in a sort of "forced" situation may have remained linked to sex in your mind. Of course, this wouldn't happen to everybody, but it would to some people.
And it is like how would you really feel if someone put a gun to your head and then raped you and killed you? Would you really want that? Would you want them to take away your life and take you away from your loved ones and everything?
Of course that's awful. Nobody wants that to happen.
A lot of rape victims, not all, can die from their attackers and I am sure a lot of rape victims would be sickened to know that people get off on something that destroyed their life!
What has happened to rape victims is horrible. I would not wish it on anybody. I believe that the punishment for a sexual assault should be the highest possible. When I hear about incidences of rape, it makes me outraged on behalf of the rape victim. I should mention that I support both local and international charities aimed at empowering women. (Locally, it's a women's shelter. Internationally it's http://www.womenforwomen.org/
But what goes on in my head is not about the outside world. It is about me and my psyche. I don't know... maybe the desire to lose control is part of a desire to surrender to something greater than myself? What I do know is that, in the privacy of my own mind, I cannot censor my desires. People don't choose what turns them on.
So, can someone just explain why it is so appealing? I just don't get it.
I can't really explain it. I mentioned a couple of theories a few paragraphs up, but in the end, I don't know. Why is sex appealing? Why is a vagina or a penis appealing? Why do some people have foot fetishes?
Forget about sex... Why is a pretty flower appealing? Why do I love the smell of saffron? Why do I love rain? I couldn't tell you. I could certainly tell you what I like about the rain. I love how it feels, how it sounds and how it smells. But I can't tell you why