If this isn't where this goes, please let me know and I'll move it or have a mod move it.
Basically though, over the last couple years I've gotten more and more involved with the Pagan community and will start going to gatherings with the local Druid Grove next weekend. It might not be my thing, I don't know, but I've basically begun considering myself a philosophical Druid for some time now. The values and customs appeal to me, I've always been very proud of my celtic heritage and I've never really felt like Christianity was a fit for me but I kind of missed the community that church provides. So even if this Grove isn't the right one for me I'll probably still consider myself a Druid.
My family never discusses religion. I was more or less raised Christian but I think my parents (especially my father) figured out pretty early on that my sister and I were not religious. My mother has passed away, so it's just my father now. He's married but my step mom is really laid back and accepting, she's Christian but I don't think she'd give me a hard time or shun me for coming out as a Druid, my sister isn't a big deal either. My dad though... he's not the church going Christian type, but he definitely has that holier than thou, judgmental complex going on. I have only met a few people in my life who were as judgmental as my father and who balked so greatly at anything new or against the norm. Iron considering he's a former hippie and still smokes pot. And there's my aunt, who basically became my mother after my own passed away. She is very church going, good ole southern baptist. Not as judgmental as my dad, but still very... leery of anything she might consider heretical.
Anyway, I don't think I'll be doing it any time, but as my boyfriend and I are becoming more serious and talking marriage, I know that when I get married, whether it's to him or some one else, I won't want a preacher/pastor to preside over the ceremony, any mention of the Christian god or the bible, nothing like that. And if at the time I have come to really embrace the Druid religion, I would like to do it some honor in referencing my personal beliefs. So I would like to talk to my dad and my aunt some before that day so that it's not just sprung upon them and there's a bunch of drama.
I know some of you might say, just make the wedding as neutral as possible. Well, I don't like that idea at all. It's mine and my fiance's (whoever that might be) day, the start of our marriage, and that means that it's half mine and this is something I feel strongly about. I'm not going to have it like a full out Druid ceremony though lol would just like to be able to include some customs and references without feeling like my aunt is going to douse me in holy water, or my dad is going to denounce me. (we've had a bad falling out in the past, which is why we don't talk about religion, he and I don't talk about touchy subjects because we don't want to fight)
I guess I'd like to hear from anyone here on E who are Pagan, Wiccan, Druid, or any of the other old paths, about if or how you've told your family about your choice, especially if yours is like mine, aka southern and religious. Or how you think you might do it. There's no risk of me being kicked out or anything, I live on my own, I'm financially independent so that's not an issue either, I just don't want a huge falling out.
Is it sad/funny that I think my dad and aunt would have a bigger problem with my being Druid rather than just agnostic or atheist?