Thanks for your opinion, Noelle. Just a few things, though...
Erm, it sounds to me like you're arguing that being gay is a pass to sexually objectify anyone you want without consequence and it should be okay because that other person is probably just afraid they'll like it and they do other things that could be perceived as homoerotic anyway. This does not bode well with me.
Erm...well, I have thought much about how to reply to this. And there are a number of ways to answer, so, I'll try this one:
It sounds like that to you? Ok. You can chose to (mis)interpret what I wrote in any way you please.
Even if that's not what you're saying, using it as justification is a bit of a poor excuse anyway -- what does it matter, even if they really are just "afraid they might like it"? Isn't it their business as to whether or not they want to explore that and through what means, if any?
I like the way you start that sentence. "Even if...
" It's a good trick. Because even if
I choose to explain myself now...well, is there really a point in bothering?
Like I say, you could
interpret it that way. But for me when you get to
If a man used that excuse against a woman, you know that just wouldn't fly; you can't say "I grabbed your ass, but I thought you might like it!"
it may come across as a well-reasoned argument, but that could also be interpreted as sophistry.
It doesn't matter if I did or didn't like it, forcing others in vulnerable situations to confront that is always inappropriate. It doesn't matter if I like to make out with girls at the bar or if a man wants to do dumb stuff like snap each other with towels out of the shower, it's not a carte blanche for anyone else in the locker room to stare in an objectifying manner at other people in a state of undress.
Couldn't agree more.
I think I'll bow out of this one. Clearly I'm not intelligent enough, so I'll keep my opinions to myself!