I saw there was a comment here about nice guys and while I total agree with it I have something to say about nice girls.
First of all nice girls are just as overlooked as nice guys and sometimes by the nice guys. There are the girls who the guy calls and bitches about his girlfriend or some other girl he wants to befriend. He is looking for an incite into the mind and heart of the female and she (the nice girl) gives him what she can. Let me clarify something before we go any further, I am not talking about girls who have no value. The nice girl is just a valuable as the nice guy she is just not seen, by the opposite sex as good girlfriend material.
My description of the nice girl is: She is sweet in personality, because that is how she was raised by very religious and strict parents. She does not know how to be any other way. She is cute not drop dead gorgeous but definitely cute. Her male friends see her as someone they can talk to because she has an approachable personality, an open door policy to all her friends. She is not the jealous type, envy is not in her vocabulary. She is the truly happy sort, who brings sunshine with her when she walks into a room.
Now what does she get for all her efforts,: No male attention of a sexual nature, no gratitude for all her efforts and no one who she can talk to about how she feels. She is alone amidst a sea of self absorbed idiots who could care a less about her, except that she is available to them when they need her, which to my horror she always is.
The problem with the situation is the nice girl sees no problem. She is truly selfless and wishes all her friends the very best and happiness. I have, to be honest, know only a few truly nice guys or girls in my life. But I feel blest by their existence and renewed of spirit that they exist.
I knew one such nice girl in high school. When a new kid hit the school she was the first to welcome them. She was a cheerleader and in the popular crowd but she didn't care what all her fake friends thought. She was brave and took the effort to welcome anyone, boy or girl, and to let them know she was willing to be their friend. This girl was so selfless that even at the expense of herself being made fun of she ask the new guy in school to take her to the homecoming game.(for those of you who don't know what that is. It is a sporting event where there is a queen a king chosen in front of a stadium full of people, kind of like a prom) Anyway back to the story, she was nominated for homecoming queen, which she won, and her date, the new guy, escorted her across the field head held high. She accepted her crown and she said two words in acceptance, "Thank You".
I tell you this story so you will understand how I feel about these overlooked nice girls. Yes she had a multitude of friends, and still does, but no one was caring enough to be there for her when she had troubles.
The nice guy and the nice girl are people we should all strive to be. I hope to be a nice girl someday, I think I was at one point but gave up the fight. Maybe if we, all the men and women who want to better ourselves, look at these people as examples then we can become what we so admire in them.
Now as for the bitchy friends who always want advice and never see the nice girl and guy as date material. I say get a life and show some gratitude for what is right in front of you.
Alas I fear that the nice guy and nice girl are becoming extint. Nice guys grow up to become nice men and then one of two things happens. He either is so disillusioned with everything, that he builds a wall that no one can penetrate or he finally realizes his worth and accepts what is given him by the nice girl, love and appreciation.
The nice girl sometimes has a little better fate but only because I think the wall is harder to build for an emotional female. (just my opinion) The nice girl usually gets married to the first guy who shows her any attention in a sexual way because she is so starved for it or she decides that her worth is valuable and holds out for the right guy.
My applause goes to all the nice men and women in the world who have their own inter struggles and yet seem to help so many. These are the people with, what I call, a gift. A gift of selflessness and a helping spirit.
If we all look at our lives I think we know someone like this. It is our obligation to be as good a friend to them as they are and have been to us.
Now that I have rambled on and on I guess you can see that I am a little touchy on the subject.
I want to wish all the nice guys and girls out there a hearty congratulations on not being a conformist. Also I wish them all the best and pray that someday I may be one of you.