You might consider Lords Only as a potential place to discuss this, or possibly On Topic if you want female input as well. The people here are quite calm about approaching things in a relatively non-confrontational and open minded manner, from what I've seen so far. In both cases the question would not be open to unapproved members, if that is something to consider. If you want any and all input, then I would recommend Off Topic as a place to post it.
I applaud your willingness to talk about it and seek information, and I respect the feelings which would drive you to do so.