I think you may be carrying a bit of a chip on your shoulder there, Ack Arg. I'm hetero, and I'm not getting the antagonism you seem to feel you're receiving.
The functional reality here is that because I don't have a liege tag I don't get any benefit of the doubt as to what my views are and I'm definitely not allowed seperate my personal views from a reasonable arguement.
This alone is flat-out false.
Not that I've said them, I've had personal views assigned to me.
At least some of your opinion can be inferred from how you're approaching the subject. If someone is making incorrect assumptions about you, it's on you to correct and clarify, not just stomp around and claim people don't understand you.
If i can't point out that friends ought to be people that have responsibilities beyond reaffirming what you think and esteeming you for what you do without being assumed to be trying to imply... hold on, what was it?
Well, you either seem to be assuming the worst here, or you're deliberately skewing the discussion. Friends can accept who you are
without trying to force you into societal norms. If your friends are constantly trying to change you to fit their preconceptions about the world, they're not very good friends. That goes double for partners. That doesn't mean that your friends can't tell you when you're being an idiot about something, or tell you off when you need to be told off.
But someone's self-perception isn't typically something up for debate. I'm heterosexual. If I had a gay friend who tried to insist that there truly aren't any heterosexual people, that everyone was some shade of bisexual, odds are good he wouldn't remain a friend for very long - particularly if his reason for arguing that was to try to get in my pants.
This goes for any self-perception issue, not just gender/sexual ones. I'm a furry, for example. I had one friend who didn't understand and didn't appreciate furry culture at all. But he accepted that I was a furry, and accepted that perhaps he just couldn't understand it, because he had no interest in it. If, on the other hand, he had started banging a furries-are-perverts drum, instead of trying to understand the appeal, he wouldn't have remained my friend.
I have lesbian friends. I have a genderfluid friend (and note, I'm making a distinction between friends and acquaintances here. I speak to both regularly, and the genderfluid friend is now on E). I'm not threatened by their self-perceptions, and I'm not interested in trying to make them fit into a heterosexual or bisexual "box," because that's not who they are.
Ack, I see your argument about the pronouns. You object to the use of the labels because you find them constricting and limiting, whether you're a straight man comfortable in his gender and sexuality or a transman uncomfortable about being bi. You like the more fluid aspect of not defining things directly, leaving room for more variety. At least, that's what I've been seeing in your posts, I think.
But I don't necessarily find labels harmful or constricting. I find that they help for easy identification and understanding. What I find limiting, and this seems to be what you're complaining about, are stereotypes, base and incorrect assumptions about certain labels. You seem to think we're stereotyping cisgendered individuals, but we're not. We're merely talking about a society that is predominantly cisgendered, a fact that can't be avoided, and therefore considering the issue of alternative gender pronouns and viability in such a society. You disagree with the usage and viability of altenative gender pronouns. Understood.
I see no harm in the self-application of alternative gender pronouns, but as I've said before, I think that widespread usage and adoption might lead to some aggressive (violent) tribalism toward alternate-gendered individuals, that they might not have had otherwise. However, the biggest problem that we have here is that we can't do social experiments in a controlled test bed - we can only do it live, and any changes we make would probably suffer from the law of unintended consequences.
English is a finicky bitch of a language, thanks to its centuries of robbing from other languages. Start small; if it's a change worth making, it'll ripple out naturally.