Also, does it do a child any good to see his/her parents fighting over them? Like it or not, right or not, kids get dragged into this crap. Kids hear stuff. Sure, knowing your father didn't want you would be upsetting. However, it's better than listening to the back and forth of your parents fighting. Your father gets taken to court because of you, and you know it. It's a constant reminder that you are not wanted. You can't move on and forget about it, because your mother will talk about it, and you'll hear it.
And to clear it up, the guy was not living in his car when the first court order was made, but he ended up there and tried to contest it. He lost his house because he couldn't pay for anything.
I very much believe in personal responsibility. The whole quarter between the knees thing was said by someone who wants to outlaw abortion, which has nothing to do with this. I have working female parts as much as I wish I didn't. This means pregnancy is a real possibility. And so, I keep track of my cycle. If my boyfriend wants to have sex during my fertile period I have two options. I can have sex with him and risk it, or I can tell him no. Most of the time I tell him no. That doesn't mean I don't ever have sex. But when I do, and if it's during my fertile period, I'm well aware that pregnancy could result. That's why I usually go with the option of saying no. It doesn't take anything away from me. In fact, the option of saying no gives me the power to avoid getting pregnant when I don't want to.
Because I never said a woman should be punished for sex. However, since women are the ones who get pregnant, a woman has the responsibility to make sure she doesn't get pregnant if she doesn't want to. All a man can do is use a condom or get a vasectomy. Of course, most doctors won't do a vasectomy on a man who hasn't had at least one child, no matter how sure he is he doesn't want any. Women have the same issue with sterilization, which I don't think is fair either.
I've heard women complain, but yeah, the extra responsibility is on you because you carry the child. And so, you either have to take birth control, make sure a condom is used, or barring that, know when you're fertile and at least keep your legs closed during that time. The point some of us are trying to make is that should your method of contraception fail, you can go get an abortion. You also seem hung up on the right to an abortion, which also is not being disputed. The point is, that unless there is a medical reason, you are getting rid of the embryo because even though you may have taken precautions, nothing is fool proof. You got pregnant. You don't want to carry to the child. You don't want the responsibility of said child. You go get an abortion and get an instant get out of jail free card.
I'm not saying it isn't a difficult decision either. I've been faced with it myself. Birth control and my bi-polar disorder don't mix well, so I was naturally concerned how my bi-polar disorder and pregnancy hormones would mix. I ended up not having to make that decision in the end. Either the home test was a false positive, or I had a spontaneous miscarriage between then and when I could get myself to the doctor.
My point is, you can make that decision. You can say okay, I'm pregnant, but I really can't have/don't want this kid. You can even get an abortion to avoid pregnancy. But a man can use a condom and all that, and if you choose to keep the child, he has absolutely no say. Before you even have sex with him he can make it very clear to you he doesn't want kids. It doesn't matter. You can completely ignore his wishes and have the kid, and go after him for child support. Then he resents both you and the child. The child has to live with being resented even though it didn't do anything wrong. It's not a good situation for anyone involved.