What they need to do is outlaw divorce for idiotic reasons. Abuse, adultery and such should be the only reasons (with proof) that a couple should get divorced.
And who decides what is idiotic reasons? You? My mom? The government? The church? Which denomination? Wait… which religion? Does the religious beliefs of the couple come into play? Are you seeing the problem with this idea yet? How about this one - people change as they grow older. Fact of life. The person you are now is NOT who you will be five years, fifteen years, twenty five years from now. It stands to reason that if you change, so does the person you marry. Which means, sometimes two people who were once compatible, no longer are.
By putting in some crackpot law that says you can’t divorce except for reasons X,Y or Z, you are effectively trapping people into a situation that is unhealthy for one or both of them.
Marriage is for life. If you can't figure that out before hand, you're stupid enough to be called on it. Can't handle it? There's things called counseling, both marriage and singular to help you figure out your problems.
Again, no. I am sorry but I disagree here. Do you even know why
marriages were created? Have you ever looked into history and researched it? It really wasn’t that long ago that people married simply for social/economic reasons.
Daddy Smallbucks has a pretty little daughter, quite a bit of land, but not a lot of social standing or ready cash. Meanwhile, his neighbor Daddy Wealthypants has a son (never mind that the son is twenty five years older than Smallbucks’ little girl) who is in need of a wife. Now Daddy Wealthypants has tons of ready cash, lots of social standing but not so much in the way of heirs or land. Solution? Marry the son to the daughter - viola! Everyone gets what they want (except the two forced to the altar to say ‘I Do‘). This is also known as arranged marriage. Still common in some countries around the world today.
Now, do you realize that marriage is still driven by the economic motivator? All you need to do is look at those denied the right of marriage (not saying I am against same sex marriages, do not presume I am. I personally believe there should be no restriction on who a person can say ‘I Do’ to) and you will hear, at some point, the fact that they want the same rights as hetero couples. (Joint fund of property, legal guardianship over any children, visitation rights to hospital/jail if one spouse, control over a spouse’s property, joint taxes, benefits, etc)
Let’s look at other reasons for the institution of marriage. It was viewed as a way for a man to be assured of the paternity of his children. That would be that little tidbit of the ceremony where they vow to forsake all others and cleave only unto each other. It was also viewed as a way to ensure less strife within villages/tribes.
It’s only been about two hundred years, maybe less, since the idea of marrying for love became popular in the West. And if you actually spend the time researching the subject of marriage, you will see that if our ancestors were alive now they’d think we’ve all lost our minds. Love did not equate into who they married, was not socially accepted and some societies even considered love to be a mental illness.
Now - with all of that said, I do not believe a piece of paper makes a marriage, nor the words of an ordained person spoken over the couple (le gasp! This coming from someone who is ordained and granted the ‘power’ by the state to perform weddings!). I believe, and tell others, that a marriage is a personal and private matter between two people. It is the conscious and willing decision to say ‘I Do’ every single minute of every single day that you are with that person. But I do not tell them that it has to be till the day one of them dies. Because, in the end. People change. Situations change. Nothing remains static. Love wanes, passion dies, arousal vanishes - it is
a fact of life.
“Marriage is an institution that brings together two people under the influence of the most violent, most insane, most delusive and most transient of passions. They are required to swear that they will remain in that excited, abnormal, and exhausting condition continuously until death do they part.” ~ George Bernard Shaw