It seems like there is a lack of communication... about our communication. The first thing I want to say is that I'm in favour of two SBs... as long as they don't clutter up the already-full main index. I don't know how you can implement it without cutting it into two panes side by side or top and bottom ... both of which have pros and cons. I hate webpage clutter, though... hate it. So hopefully if this is implemented, it'll be in a way that doesn't make things at the top feel jumbled and crowded.
That said: My main issue with the PG-13 thing is that it's been forever since I've had to pay attention to movie ratings. G, PG, PG-13, R, X ... I try not to do anything outright on the shoutboard, but I know sometimes I'll look at something and say "Hmmm... not sure if that's over the line" and end up not posting it, or posting a watered-down version of it... if I'm not wrapped up in a conversation and remember to think before I hit enter. I don't always do that... and find myself feeling bad sometimes about certain posts, especially with regards to language (I'm not the cleanest-mouthed person around, and I'm pretty sure the F-word is not PG-13). I'm an adult and have been for several years. I don't have kids to watch out for, and all my younger siblings are old enough to watch R-rated. Sometimes I'm just not sure what constitutes PG-13. That's the main problem, and I'm sure I'm not the only one who has it.
Second. I like to play. I love to flirt. I'm a huge flirt. I'm a not-easily-offended flirt. If I did something on the shoutboard such as shoving my hands down someone's panties, all they have to say is "That's not appreciated, Trieste" and from me they would get a "I'm sorry, Elvi!" and nothing more of the sort from me... especially if it was a case in which I'd gotten carried away by other carryings-on. There's no need to lose one's temper over something like that, though it can be extremely frustrating. Yes, I do see the shoutboard getting carried away, and sometimes I say something, but more often I don't. I'm not a moderator. I'm not an admin. People don't have to listen to me, and my stepping up and acting like I have a right to dictate someone else's actions on the Shoutboard - especially when I have a very tenuous hold on what constitutes PG-13 in the first place - only tends to breed resentment and annoyance. Or so it would seem.
I'm thinking that more explicit guidelines may need to be laid out for the SB, just as more explicit guidelines than "Be civil, people" had to be laid out for the forums. Part of the problem may be that there is no real official guide as to what the admins consider PG-13. Is hugging okay, but groping not? Is undefined "*gropes so-and-so*" okay but "*pats Trieste on the ass*" not acceptable? What about language? And if someone steps over the line, there are Sirens for that. They are the board mods, and I'm sure that includes the Shoutboard. All it takes is a PM to one of the lovely ladies listed as a Siren with a link to the Shout archive. "Hey, I don't think this was appropriate. Can you talk with these guys?"... and you get a simple reply of either "Thanks, I'll handle it" or "Well, this is within the rules so you're being oversensitive, here".
So, in short, rules need to be clarified and so does discomfort. Calmly saying "Hey, I don't appreciate that" can go a long way, as could clarification of the rules in place. Different people get offended by different things and react in different ways. Vive la difference, but try to accomodate it, too.
And I've spent a lot of time reading and rereading this post, trying to make sure it says what I mean without coming off as an attack on anybody, because it seems like someone always takes some sort of offence to my posts like this. I'm stating an opinion, not attacking anyone, and I used Elvi's example because she threw it out there as an example. So if something isn't worded well, I apologise in advance and hope that the points I've been trying to make are clear despite that.