Even if we grow up in a save loving environment and we can be children till the age of 21, playing, having fun and discovering life. Even then the demands made on our body, our heart and mind are enormous. From when we are very little we are rewarded when we are happy and easy going, when we act in the manner appropriate, when we are good at stuff, when we are good at school and sport an being social. We are being frowned upon or ignored when we are sad in social situations or even at home, when we get mad, when we are clumsy or not good at school, sport or being social.
We learn that being who we are, and being honest about who we are and what we feel inside is not enough to be loved and cherishes. We need to become something else.
The stress of that reality is enormous, but we learn to cope, we adapt. Till we ourselves are no longer aware of the feelings we hide.
Atop of that, we live in a world with a crazy ass tempo and ridiculous amount of stimuli that over-excite our senses and nervous system.
And in that world we are expected to be perfect students, employees, parents, siblings, children, friends etcÖÖ.name it.
Our body is an amazing beautiful product of nature that -from the day we are born till the moment we die- is constantly doing its best to accommodate to our wishes, while constantly returning to a state of balance. Until it is no longer able process the activity and stress level we or life throws at it.
If we ignore the alarm signals long enough, or we donít even hear them, we become ill, physical, mentally, or emotionally.
We tend to shy away from pain, discomfort, because we donít want to feel it, we even label pain and illness and not coping as Ďfailureí. In doing so we miss the point our body is trying to make: Stop, something has to change.
Our body never lies. What it lets us feel (or lack thereof) is there for a reason. It needs something from us, from life, to restore itís balance.
The opposite of everything described above:
Unconditional love and permission to feel what you feel, be who you are, at any given moment, and the space to express what goes on inside you. Without having to achieve anything, or show emotions or behavior that you do not really feel inside.
Find people and surroundings where you feel you can be yourself, with everything there is.
Spent time in nature. There is no better place than to return to a Natural tempo and way of living, than nature. Or a monastery. But that is maybe more difficult and not as appealing to realize ~smiles~.
Although Iím aware my devotion to it might border on ridiculous ~smiles~, and itís my path, not necessarily yours: Yoga and Meditation. I wonít write another page about it here, at this moment,, but will gladly, if you are interested and like to know more about it. Donít hesitate to write me a message if you want to know more or have another question.
Be kind to your heart,