Thank you Modern, Rhedyn, Sybl; how welcoming of you. I'm here to learn things. Even just reading through has helped me see this thing a little more clearly.
I'll try my best to steer clear of just dropping by to complain- the two things overlap, but what I'm trying to do is find a way to say the right thing, or at least understand why I'm never going to say the right thing. Maybe doing this here is a weird way to start, but I grew up with five brothers, and don't have the kind of mates who do talking and understanding... I have the kind that do drinking lager. Sometimes we talk about football. We're not big on respecting anyone else's feelings- and it turns out I need to learn how.
@ MFT; I'm the first type. I hope. Most of the time. I'm trying to understand what's happening in her head so that I can stop making it vastly more dramatic and worse, which is pretty much my superpower right now.
She does know that I'm discussing this stuff here, incidentally.
That said, if anyone feels like I'm being disrespectful or just moaning, please take me to task about it. I'm a big boy, I can take criticism, and I really don't intend to offend anyone.
My partner, by the way, not my parents, although I can see why you read it that way. Bit old to live with my folks, bit old to call anyone my 'girlfriend', heh.