Unfortunately, the one place that I KNOW would have hired you went out of business some time ago - Tower Records. I worked there for a couple of years, and I know for a fact that they were totally nonjudgemental. We had one girl working for us who had a blue mohawk and more facial piercings than I could reliably count.
Have you looked into positions that do not require you to deal with the public visually? Such as phone work or even internet work? I realize that it may still be a problem with employers' dress codes seeming harshly unrealistic under the circumstances. What about less conventional means of self-employment? Are you at all crafty? I know people who just make things and sell them on Etsy or eBay as a living. A lot of employment counselors will tell you to be creative and think outside the box when it comes to finding a job that you're going to want and love.
I'm sorry that I couldn't be more help, but I do wish you all the best in your job search. Good luck!
I've thought about a lot of different things, and friends of mine have given me other ideas as well. But it seems that everything I look into that would give me a decent opportunity and won't make me sacrifice parts of who I am either requires a certain level of experience, certain skills that I do not have, or require me to have a certain education level. The highest I have is a full high school education. And not having my own personal means of transportation, thus having to rely on other people to take me where I need to go, sets me back as well.
But I'm not giving up, by any means. I need to do what I need to do; and not just for myself but also for my little one.
And thank you. I appreciate it.
Hot Topic is the only one that comes to mind like that. Or other clothing retailers, maybe.
Well, I've tried Hot Topic many, many times over the past five years. And either they just never call me back, they didn't want me because I had no real work experience, or their 'waiting list' was 25,000 miles long - which was very ridiculous. I even tried for Spencer's Gifts when I turned 18 - when a good friend of mine worked there - but when I went to see if they were hiring, he told me that they had JUST changed it to where you had to be 21 or older to work there. Which pissed me off. However, I could still try there again after my birthday in April, because I'll be 'legal' then. Even though I won't be able to drink still considering I'll still be pregnant. X3
Even when I worked at a call center, we had to keep up appearances. This was because clients would occasionally be 'given the tour' of the facility. Unfortunately, with the current job market, employers have a wider pool to draw from, and will usually hire the person who can look professional when the need arises.
That's understandable. And I can look professional when I need to. I'm just sick of having to hide parts of myself just to make a living. I mean... I'm going to do what I have to do and I can live with having to hide my piercings and holding off on getting a mohawk back again; especially with the little one on the way. It just doesn't make it suck any less, because I'm proud of who I am and hate having to hide parts of myself. Although, my pride isn't going to stand in the way of me doing what needs to be done.
yes - only a few call centres are very open to all appearances, even though no-one sees you - if you are prepared to commission work - sometimes all that counts for them is you bringing the money in - see the next point to find out which!
I would go to every employment agency in your area - and talk to them, they'll know who takes people - locally to me two packing firms do, a printers and laundry. Also if you don't mind working outdoors - security and event companies often need people for gate, collecting money, checking tickets etc.
A few smaller income streams can work really well - dog walking, babysitting etc, and ebay etc - they really add up.
Good luck hun
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Very true. I'm just really going to have to stick to looking really hard for this. And while I have no problem with that, it just gets very discouraging and depressing.
But thank you.
Do note that I'm speaking to you as a person who is also fairly pierced and has revolving-door hair colors, so I know what the job search feels like with those things and I, myself, am finally coming out of a few months of unemployment.
It might sound a little harsh, but how much do you care about providing for your baby? How much do you care about getting stable income, do you care what kind of job it is or are you happy with anything you can get? You have options for hiding visible piercings -- septum piercings are among the easiest to hide with a simple retainer that you can flip up during the day. There are clear retainers for labret piercings, there is the option of taking it out during the workday, occasionally pushing it back through to ensure it's not closed, and then going about your day. You can even take them out for awhile to get income and then repierce them -- we're talking about semi-permanent body alterations that can be redone when you're in a better place. I guess I don't understand why you're so reluctant to at least hide them.
I can definitely sympathize with the wishes that they were more accepted in the workplace -- I've dealt with cleverly hiding all kinds of piercings and waiting til I had a more lax work environment to do things with my hair, and I know that it can be a hassle, but you need to assess your situation and ask yourself if you're really in a state to be able to be so choosy. To speak from my own experience, when I lost my job and had student debt start rolling in, I was ready to do anything short of sell organs to get income again. I dyed my hair from fire engine red back to my natural brunette and removed my piercings for interviews to ensure a better shot at getting the job.
Your best bet for jobs that accept piercings are mostly going to be minimum wage jobs most likely in fast food or yes, a place like Hot Topic or possibly even Spencer's. However, employers have the right to set their own guidelines on how they allow people to dress and the restrictions they can place on things like makeup -- I've had friends sent home before for wearing dark, punk-looking makeup to a job at a grocery store. Clubs looking for go-go dancers can mandate that you always show off tits and ass, a cubicle job can mandate you wear a suit and tie. This is no different -- It's not always about being close-minded, it's about being professional, and the professional world has no obligation to bend to meet the tastes of the non-mainstream. It's not always fair, but it is what it is, and it's kind of all you have to work with right now.
The good news about your situation, however, that I don't believe that they can discriminate against you being pregnant. I'm almost entirely certain that's illegal nationwide, so they can't ask you about it or use it in determining whether or not to hire you.
While I do
need a job, because I can't be unemployed forever once again, I am doing this specifically for my baby. I want to be able to provide for myself and my little one. Even more so because I am a single soon-to-be mom and my own mother can't provide for me forever, much less add on a little me to all of that. So I really do care about providing and I know that I need to do what I need to do, even if that requires me to sacrifice things. I want a good job and a stable income. I'm just holding out hope that I can still find that and have it without having to hide parts of myself.
And I know that I have options for my piercings. I've had to do those things for my last two jobs. I am just sick of having to do it; but I know that if I have to keep doing it, then I will. And I've said over and over again why I am so reluctant of having to hide them. It was even in my first post. Even then, I can see how not everyone could understand. But I've gone through enough of my life having to hide things about myself - from friends, family, or even people I have been in a relationship with. I enjoy being able to be myself and showing who I am. I am proud of who I am. So it really irks me to have to hide things that are essentially me.
But like I've said... If I have to continue to do that so that I will be able to provide for myself and my little one...then I will do it. I just won't enjoy it because of the previously mentioned reasons.
I'm just looking for other options that I know are out there. It's just another thing that is easier said than done.