I did not lurk, I joined immediately. I was frustrated on another site and searched Google for some alternatives. This place was so friendly.
I do not think I had many expectations. Erotic writing, which, was pretty obvious.
Ah! Yes! One wonderful surprise is that I have had females approach me. That had never happened elsewhere. At least not actual females. I had guys pretending to be females approach me all the time. Honestly, I do not mind guys pretending to be females, just own up to it.