Well, it was in PM, and I made DarkCassandra kneel and told her to suck my panties clean (while I was still wearing them). She refused, so I just turned away to leave. She very quickly grabbed my hips and made with the sucking... See, I figure, the worst thing you can do to a sub is leave them hanging. Most of them love the pain and the spanking and the slaps... Occasionally you even find one that enjoys a brutal beating. But none of them enjoy being abandoned.
There just aren't enough Lesbian doms to go around, but there are more than enough subs to keep me busy, that I can afford to pick and choose!
wow, are you sure you arnt my ex?
we were a sadist/masochist pair, and very... honest about our ways, we never did the faux-punishement thing. ie, where the activities used to 'punish' are actually what the sub wants.. this encouraging them to misbehave, she felt it was very poor training, and instead would work me over as a reward, while refusing to hurt me as a punishment
anyway, its a rare enough sentiment, but one i wish there was more of!
(just thought id contribute!)