I have to say, Kate, that for the most part you seem like a really down-to-earth person with a solid set of ideas and a great grasp of what you want in a game, and how to run it, which is all for the good.
I'd really love to play a character under you as a DM, but I have to admit to a concern regarding the whole God-Moding thing. I totally
understand the need to occasionally assume basic actions outside of combat and as it pertains to day to day activities and sane actions that fit a character's personality, especially if they support the advancement of the plot.
My concern is reading the bit about occasionally losing control of a character during combat and having you decide what spells get cast (as an example). I'd like to think that I put some serious effort into character decisions, and combat is one of those times where I value my decisions most, as I feel that conflict is the best way to develop a character's personality (whether it's fighting conflict or social). Losing control of the character at that moment, I would feel like I had practically no input on how the campaign was developing, and what was happening elsewhere. It would make me feel like little more than a puppet, parroting lines and doing what I was told.
I'm not saying that I'm utterly inflexible on that point, but I personally feel that some further discussion on that particular topic is kind of important.
So, in other words, just how often have you experienced the need to commandeer a character and dictate what they're doing in the past? Do you do so only in cases where the actions are immensely contradictory to character and circumstance, or do you do so just in order to end a combat in a specific manner? Is it a situation where, because you know vulnerabilities and whatnot, you choose to help out the players, or do you do it to hinder, in order to maintain control of combat flow?
Please forgive the litany of interrogations, but it's really the only sticking point that prevents me from leaping up and down with hand waving say "Ooh ooh pick her!"
If you'd prefer to discuss such things privately, please feel free to PM me, and I will respond (all PMs relating to this game will be shared with Sabriel, FYI).
Hope I haven't put you off the idea