Although not really a dating site, i have met over a dozen women on Myspace.com who I could have met in real, and actualyl did meet one in real though it wasn't planned. I had to travel to her city for work and was out chilling and literaly bumped into her, and we had discussed the possability of me meeting her while i was there. I have also met a women in real that I met on americansingles.com, but they have changed alot since then so don't know if they are any good now. I'm sure you have heard of adultfriendfinder.com. At first you may not have any luck there but if you are into theat lifestyle and assuming since your here that you are at least a little, eventually you will met some people. I met a Japanese lady there and we spent quite a few hours on cam(good times), and I could have met her in real, but decided against it. I did meet anotehr Japanese girl on AFF that paid over $300 to take the shinkansen down form her city just to be with me for one night.(not trying to blow my own horn).
So they are out there you just have to find something unique about you to draw them to you, your pretty much gonna have to pay at least a few dollors a month to really get anything out of it. Or, just stick with My Space, it's free and even if you don't meet them in real, your bound to make friends, and connections.