Lots of points made, and I'd like to continue them individually.
Of course. I CHOSE to be with a woman (well am young but followed that attraction) because its fairly accepted in society now. If it wasn't and the hardships outweighted the benefits I would have CHOSEN to be with a man. One can choose to be alcoholic or not, just decide not to drink alcohol in the first place. Drugs the same thing unless special cases like a person on pain killers or diet pills becoming addicted. Food the same thing. I take my preference for women to be as much a choice as natural. But if they were jailing or whipping lesbians I would not be choosing to live the lifestyle regardless of personal choice.
I guess I have to apologize. I know 2 gay couples that I'm very close with who are upstanding Catholics, yet their view on homosexuality doesn't really hinge on "choice". They don't really see it as a choice...it just comes naturally to them. I can't imagine one of my lesbian friends ever telling me that she'd just as easily be with a man or a woman. And I know for a fact that one of the gay guys I know just has no ability to function for a woman....and I personally know the woman he's failed to function with, because I ended up marrying her. Truth be told, among the gay community, you'd be labelled as bisexual, and severely frowned upon. Just to clarify, though, I'm not gay, and thus not part of the gay community...I'm only going by my own personal experiences. I can certainly be corrected by someone with more perspective on this issue.
As for being disabled I seperate legitimate disability from habits- I was born diabetic pretty much, having a palsied right leg and feel I am more entitled to benefits than a person with a self brought about disability. And that if benefits are issued for health care there has to be a distinction between a legitimate illness and doing something stupid that brought it upon themselves. Unless a child or it was forced in some manner then perhaps that would be different.
And again, this is very "black and white" of you to think, which can be attributed to your youth. Wait until you enter the real world, wait until you actually start having relationships with other grown women, wait until you experience their experiences, until you develop your own. The microcosm of people that you've been exposed to just isn't a good sample of the vast amount of different people on different walks of life that inhabit this country, much less this planet.
The fact of the matter is that there are people who self-medicate illnesses with drugs and alcohol. Heck, there are people who self-medicate with sex...I wouldn't be surprised to know that there were some addicted sexaholics on these boards, in fact. Mental illness....depression, for example...can lead people to these "self-inflicted" problems. Adults with untreated ADD, for example, are often alcoholics, or addicted to other vices. Like I said in one of my previous posts, how far do you extend the scope of peoples' problems? I'm not saying that all alchoholics have some mental illness compulsing them to drink...no, I totally agree with the fact that there are plenty of people who get hooked on booze just because they party too much.
The point I'm trying to make is that it's not easy to chop people up and put them into containers that classify them. There is a LOT of gray in the world. Humans are not simple creatures, we are very, very complex and varied. What seems to be obvious on the surface actually goes many layers deep. To quote Shrek, "We're like onions".
What you think all gays go along with the propaganda of the "movement" and are either in the "closet" or have to be "radicals"? The movement has detractors not all from the straight Christian community I think we should be modest, focus on real rights we could get like protection in housing and employment and serious hate crime legislation. We should work and be law abiding citizens. Should vote and work from within the system for changes. And stop having gaudy parades that show every freak who is gay in the major city like San Francisco its embassassing and destroying any good will people like me can generate among conservatives of all stripes. Do you know how much damage that does to a fairly good movement every religious conservative think we are all like that. Or that I will molest their child or convert them to be gay. So I refuse to work with that element of the community its not helping the movement or giving the gay people the best shot at any support from various factions.
I understand your views on the gay community in general. As a Hispanic, I find a lot of things about my people which embrass me as well. However, do you realize that you are all part of a minority in this country, and thus shouldn't be shooting each other in the feet? Yeah...there are flamboyant gays who have parades and act like freaks...but a lot of those people are the ones who are fighting to promote issues for the betterment of gay rights. The "parades" may seem stupid, but they provide a voice. It shows the country that they exist, that they're people, and that they are citizens too. I would recommend you think before you make comments about "your people", because frankly, to the rest of the country, RubySlippers is the same thing as a Cuban outside of Miami...just another Mexican.
As for abortion I take the moral obligations to the logical steps we have in such cases up to three persons the child in the womb, the mother and the biological father and all have the same fundamental rights. If their is a self-defense issue for the life and well-being of the mother then the mother should have the higher choice. Only in those cases. The father if fit and decent (not the rapist or the party to the incest) has also the same rights. But I leave these as decided by the courts and our legislatures at various levels. But destroying a life for converience in many cases is just a fundamental violation of the rights of the child inside the mother. I think that view as a moral issue is very consistant.
I think the abortion issue is in another thread. We were talking about health care in this one. I just called you out in my previous post to kind of straighten out some of the things you said with who you claim to be.