I wanted to say something else I forgot to mentioned but was reminded about by Emmuro...
When you RP with Pick Up Groups, get to know one another. I tend to try and talk to my players, ask them their expectations and share jokes and other things with them, my group is pretty tight nit and we get each other and work at our own speed because of this.
I kind of hear you on the long posts Odin. The longer the posts become the more roleplay becomes like collaborative fiction. The improv like flow of making offerings and spring boarding off others posts gets lost or becomes harder to achieve. I'm curious also about that game you mentioned. Were you actively advancing the plot and the GM just didn't like it drifting from his vision or what?
Exactly, I came from a forum where the Roleplays were basically that, collaborative fiction, better to leave them wanting more than to leave them wishing you'd stopped earlier.
Basically the DM in my case didn't like how I played my characters, I had one at first and she was disruptive and brash and had the best dumb luck ever. She rolled three unanswered criticals and was constantly managing to dodge things that would have been called nearly impossible. I also ended up picking up a second and third character. Everything came to a head when we were engaged in this war and I voiced how I was tired of it, he told me that he would speed it along and that he wanted to give me a hand at DMing, well in the course of the War, three characters died and I blamed him for rushing us to an end fight we weren't ready for. I survived through dumb luck. When I got to DM the game, he hated all my ideas although everyone else seemed to have fun with it. I went out of my way to make it more of an interaction thing than anything else. Then he made a character and was disruptive with it, causing trouble, not letting me see his sheet and not even telling me his class and level.
Well when my part was over he went out his way to keep his character around being disruptive (I hadn't been allowed to have mine there for the portion I DMed) and when we voiced how we didn't like this, he actively tried to kill us with a monster that was too strong but we kind of slipped out of it. he just dropped it out of nowhere on us and we were lucky the other players were smart. He only attacked those who had voiced opinions before and actively targeted them. So I said something about it, he made some lame excuse. Then he proceeded to take away the items my quest had granted. When I asked if I could restart, trade two of my level 8 characters for a level 5, he refused on the grounds that it was stupid and I was being childish.
Then he said I could do it if he killed them. So I told him no and like a week later I wrote myself out of the game. After that another girl who had been there forever did the same thing and he even took steps to kill all the animals we'd left behind for the party, take all the Gold from them and other nasty stuff. The dude still picks fights with me and its been about 7 months since I left.