There is something I have noticed around E and nothing against anyone but why do people start insulting Domme's or even think that a Domme is just a female in need to be dominated? Now, I know there are fakes out there in the world who put on a leather corset and play around in the scene for a few weeks before hanging up their riding crop and joining the rest of society. I have met them and have become amused by these females who think she can become a Mistress and Domme by picking up a leather whip and telling people what to do. Myself, I have been trained and taught by a former Domme in the BDSM community. Here to better inform everyone that I, Miss Marguerite, will never ever submit to another Dominate is this copied journal of another site I am part of:
There was a question poised to me by a female slave as to how I became to be a Dominant Female. A very good question because it gives background into how I see and think about the things surrounding me. Well, ladies and gentleman, here is a piece into the mind of Miss M.
Honestly, I have always had an inkling to dominate over others. As a child, I wanted to be the one who took on responsibility and order others about. Hell, I've heard stories of me clucking like a mother hen over my younger sister and showing her the ropes, no pun intended, of how to digest a certain level of math, work the pawns and queens in a chess match and even now my sister can kick my ass in chess in less than five moves and outsmart me in math problem that leans towards trig.
Anywho, there were even times, I worked behind the scenes pulling the puppet strings and guiding those I loved and hated into heaven and hell. Sounds a bit cliche but glancing back at how I was during elementary and middle school, I was into some alternative things, i.e. whipping, spanking, ordering someone to get on their knees and kiss my feet and all of this giving the whips, the spanks and getting the foot kisses.
Five years ago, five long years ago, I had entered into the lifestyle of BDSM. Yes, I was under the age and had befriended older and experienced BDSM lifestylers. I felt peace and at ease with the ideas and urges I had inside of me. I didn't get a strange look when I brought up whether a fantasy of spanking and tying up a male or a female was something that interested them.
A now-retired Mistress who went by the alias of Mix Painz introduced me to another Dom to try out if I was a top or a bottom. Well, I thought it wouldn't be too bad because I can try it out and if I like it then I could come back to this male again to try it out once more. Maybe even ask if I can top him as well.
Oh, no. It was horrible. I couldn't stand taking orders from this Master. I had a smart mouth and kept questioning why I needed to bark like a dog and count off to one hundred while he tried to knead my hips and breasts. I got a slap for that and it made me angry. All I thought about was how this wasn't right. I felt disgusted with myself. He called me a whore and a cumslut and how he was going to take my cherry. Wait up. I never had told him I was giving him my virginity. He automatically assumed I was his slave and he would do anything he liked to me. When he mentioned taking my cherry and telling me I would be taped, I snapped.
When I snapped, I took the flogging tool he had wanted to try to me and I flogged him on the back of the thighs where it usually hurts for me. I grabbed my clothes, dressed and left with him screaming that I was a fucking twat and a good for nothing cunt.
Now, as I flogged the Master, my skin glowed, cheeks were red as apples and I had laughed. Laughed, because I had enjoyed flogging the bastard for thinking he owned me and I was going to be videotaped for his pleasure. Fuck that. After the incident with the Master, Miz told me she had guessed I wasn't a bottom and would be much better suited to dom. Well, I dommed one of her male subs and showed me how to properly do a few things here and there. That is where I, Miss Marguerite, rose from the sea with a whip in one hand and a red apple in the other to tempt men and women alike to join me and take a bite of my luscious apple.
Now, ladies and gentleman, now you have seen just a tiny part of what makes Mistress Marguerite, aka, Miss M. Hope you enjoyed reading and email me if you like if you want to know more.
That is my history, that is how I became into the lifestyle of a Domme. No one asked me to play a part. No one told me I should do it for kicks and giggles. This is my life. My life as a Domme. No one paid me and no one can tell me who I should be. Being a Domme is a responsibility and not a playtime act to put away when I am tired of it. A part of this female and I know there are other females on E who feel the same way. After what I witnessed in the SB about petty talk about only one person being the true Domme while the others were fake hurt me because I know there are females who are Domme's but do not have to fit into the stereotypical females who pours herself into leather, lace and steel corsets or have a mean look about them. No, no one is supposed to look like the painted up 'Dominatrix' in bad horror movies or cop shows. A Domme is whatever a female can be when she feels the need to be dominate in one part of her life or her whole life. There is not a clear definition to who is considered a Domme but do not try to insult me by telling me I am a liar or a fake for declaring myself a lifestyle Domme who will never submit to anyone. That is my choice. No one else.
Now recently, I had two people come onto me in private informing me I am not a Domme, just a pretty female who needs a good hand to show her to like the title of submissive. The first one, soon found out I will grab certain delicate parts of a body and inform said person that if someone has been a lifestyle Domme for five going on six years, Mistress for five and has more than enough gestures of her never wanting to be a switch, sub or slave that they should understand and back the fuck away.
The other one soon found out that if he/she kept pushing me, the claws would come out to show that while I can be a caring female and flirty female here on E, I will bring out the darker side of my personality to make sure no one tries to rip away what I am and try to shove a new personality into my body. No one owns me and I am my own person. Never question a Domme if more than enough information has been backed up on her. However, if there are females who think about being a Domme the best way to learn is through another Domme and not through movies and books. Movies and books can skewer the reality of what it is like to be a lifestyle Domme for it is not all about sexual perverse and debauchery. It can be like that at times, but a Domme works with a submissive/slave/switch and knows the rules to make play time and sessons safe. Please, read over various articles on the lifestyle a Domme has and even go around to different communities to even acquire a kernel of knowledge. There one shall seek the answer to who is a Domme and who is playing the part of actress in the BDSM community.
Question a true Domme and think to push one down to the level of hands and knees, be ready for the nails to come out.