This is the second blog in a hopefully still long series where I voice my opinion. I know I said that I would leave the choice to my readers, but I decided to write my own opinion on a subject of my choice in between.
This my own opinion. You can like it, you can hate it, but it's something you must keep in mind.
It's my opinion on something that has been nagging at me since my return, just a few weeks ago, to this site. What has been nagging me is that there's a complete lack of etiquette here on the forum and the IRC channel where yours truly hangs out and has been hanging out for his entire period of absence.
Greenthorn has been doing a project
of her own about this, but I just couldn't help but throwing in my own opinion.
The first on my list of etiquette breaches is 'Claims of ownership'
For a while there used to be a rule or at least a very strong guideline that this was something that was not tolerated. Right now I'm seeing it happen everywhere. Having quite the dominant personality myself I have to admit that I have those urges to say or do something when someone is making moves on someone I consider mine. I consider them my friends, close friends, and very occasionally something more, but still the urges are there to lay claim on them. And here's what I do. I swallow them back, look the other way, ignore them, or laugh them off.
And not because I don't care. And not because I think the people on Elliquiy are less real than those around me in the flesh. But because laying claim to someone in any form here will result in drama.
Please people, don't lay any claim of ownership on anyone her on Elliquiy. Not because I tell you to, but because it's good sense. Just don't do it. I learned that the (very) hard way. Enjoy the writing. Enjoy meeting new people and socializing with them, but leave any relationship, but friendship, you have with someone at the door.
The second grievance I have is with 'Gossip'
Description 2a of Meriam-Webster's definition of gossip
is the one that I mean. rumor or report of an intimate nature
and there's a very simple solution to preventing this from from happening. Really, you'd be amazed at how simple this is. Don't tell anything that another person has told you about themselves to anyone else. It's really that simple. Keep your mouth shut. Respect that other people's intimate
information was just meant for your ears.
Just keep your mouth shut about the things that other people tell you about themselves. And I can't stress this one enough. Just keep your mouth shut about the things that other people tell you about themselves.
And the last grievance on my list is very simple. Everybody here is eighteen years or older (or at least should be). If you don't feel at least as old as eighteen then you're also not supposed to be here.
This last grievance as you can already guess is 'Maturity'
. Please people act your age, or at least as an adult. I have truly had it with the kids running around on this site, whining, moaning, bitching and wanting their mommy or their daddy. If I want to hear children moan and bitch I will go to a place where there are children. I don't want to see them on an adult site. Don't be mature, act mature.
Now, just keep those things in mind and Elliquiy will be a much nicer, happier and friendly place than it is now.
P.S. Greenthorn, I hope that with this blog I have not shot down your project.
P.P.S. Remember, there's three things that you can do to make this a much happier please. Leave your claims of ownership at the door, keep your mouth shut about the things that other people tell you about themselves, and don't be, but act mature.