... I should probably note that what happened just recently was not a quick flipping of tags. It was not something that someone asked me out of the blue and I just went and changed and went along on my way. I knew previous to their requests that Cthulhu and Satyr had had some ambivalence with regard to gender. The changing-over of tags was not out of the blue, and if someone randomly came to me asking to switch to Lord or Lady from Lady or Lord, I would have been a bit more cynical.
Please also remember that up until very recently, doctors took it on themselves to mutilate genitals not only without the consent of the newborn, but also without even parental consent. If you had someone born with vestigial female genitalia, it was removed and they were raised as a boy, often without the parents being particularly aware of the surgery until it was too late. They were then told that it was to the child's best interests to be raised "normally", and it was thought that they would adjust.
There is now strong, strong evidence that they most definitely do not. It is happenstance if the doctor happens to assign the correct gender at birth, and some were not assigned that. Many people are blessed with being comfortable in their own body, for the most part. Sure, someone might wish to be taller, or lose a bit of weight, but that's about the extent of it.
Elliquiy has always recognised, subtly, that this is not always the case. It just happened to be placed in the open lately, and if people are not comfortable with it, then I'm very sorry, but this is the way that site policy has been for quite a while. I would feel extremely wrong about enforcing anything less open-minded, because it's cruel and needlessly narrow-minded. Please note that I am not calling people those things, but I do believe that bigotry is as bigotry does.
As far as a separate intersex/gender neutral tag, I have yet to see anyone who actually is gender neutral or intersex ask for one. The only people asking for the differentiation are people who are frightened that there could be freaks among us. When someone who would actually need the tag asks for one, I would love to consider it, but until then...
Perhaps this comes off as harsh, but I'm truly shocked at how many people on Elliquiy are so touchy about this. We have people who are openly gay, bi, masochist, sadist, dom(me), sub, kinky, poly, open, label label label label. I had thought we were past attaching negativity to things that are different from our own experience or state of being. If someone were questioning their sexuality, they would have no such reaction here, but because they are questioning the root word - their sex, versus their gender - people feel the need to get all stirred up. The incredible amount of negativity I have seen regarding someone who doesn't happen to have the 'right' equipment for their identity ... *shakes head* Gender confusion has its own problems. Let's not be yet another place they don't feel comfortable.
Do not misunderstand - I am not advocating the comfort of one group at the discomfort of another. However, it does not take that much extra effort to make sure that the person with whom you are flirting/talking/planning a game is actually someone with whom you would like to flirt/talk/write. If you find out someone is one sex but another gender ... don't write with them. Don't play with them in the Steamboxxx. It does not rob them of their right to be known by the gender they feel is correct.