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Offline IcelandicTopic starter

I still dont understand the layout, everything feels really stuffy and cluttered to me, its like a maze to me. And on top of that I am not allowed to express frustration in the other parts of the forum where it is allowed due to my mental health (which reeks of ableism by the mods I might add.)

I just need someone from administration of moderation team or whatever just help me a bit with figuring this place out. Because right now I feel like there is nothing on this site that does not punish me for trying to use it properly and following the rules... This place is just not feeling very welcoming at all, which sucks because this place seemed to take pride on being a good community. Is it only good for people who have been here for years and are already apart of the group? Because I really don't want that to be the case...
« Last Edit: December 03, 2016, 06:17:14 AM by Icelandic »

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #1 on: December 03, 2016, 06:23:02 AM »
You should try and start posting in the Adult socialising forum or if you're here to roleplay, look at member's O and Os in the On and Off section and message them. Great community here. I don't know why do you feel this way. A mentor can help you otherwise.

Offline IcelandicTopic starter

Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #2 on: December 03, 2016, 06:24:03 AM »
I do post there and I have messaged folks. No one replied back wanting to RP yet.

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #3 on: December 03, 2016, 06:26:18 AM »
Did you post your Ons and Offs in the section. I don't know what are you into. Maybe if you post those, people will be interested. I'm curious myself.

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #4 on: December 03, 2016, 06:28:47 AM »
Im still not sure how to make that, or how to make it like others at least. I think I remember where someone said where to post them. But I dont know how to get them on my signature.

Everyone here has such flashy and fancy profiles and I dont know how to do that.

Offline CrownedSun

Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #5 on: December 03, 2016, 06:32:26 AM »
If you're having trouble getting around the site and finding out how to fit in, you should have a PM in your inbox from the Mentor team assigned to look after you?

They can answer questions and such. :)

Hell, PM me, if you'd feel more comfortable doing that.

Elliquiy is a bit... large.. and can be intimidating, but you get used to it. ♥

Im still not sure how to make that, or how to make it like others at least. I think I remember where someone said where to post them. But I dont know how to get them on my signature.

Everyone here has such flashy and fancy profiles and I dont know how to do that.

Those aren't necessary. The flashy pictures and everything, that is,--
--check out my O/O's in my signature. Just text. (Lots and lots of text.) Which, for the record, I can help you set up a nice basic one if you'd like.

The most important thing is just to calm down. ♥

Offline IcelandicTopic starter

Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #6 on: December 03, 2016, 06:34:57 AM »
Me figuring out this site is just the half of it. I am also wondering what I did to violate rule 11 and get a thread I started locked. I didnt violate rule 11. And none of the mods have given me any explanation. One of them outright told me to ask someone else.

And I am calm. Im just frustrated.

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #7 on: December 03, 2016, 06:37:32 AM »
Check out my O&O's through my signature. It's nothing fancy for the time being. Just words. And I got a few plots I'm discussing so why don't you just post and see if you get someone interested? I'm sure there will be.

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #8 on: December 03, 2016, 06:39:12 AM »
... So an O/O is a RP request?

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #9 on: December 03, 2016, 06:41:36 AM »
Nope, it's a list of the things you like and don't like with your writing partners.

Lots of people do different things with them, anyway, but at its heart the O/O's tell you what someone is into. Then, you have the request threads and what not, which are used to list the specific RP ideas that someone has.

Myself, I tend to view the O/O's as more important, because I prefer to work on a story with my partner individually?

Other people are more about doing their specific RP and thus are more into their ideas thread.

Both have their place and purpose.

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #10 on: December 03, 2016, 06:42:39 AM »
We want you to like this place too Icelandic.  It can be tough adjusting to a new community, especially a big one like E.

Please just be a little patient, staff will respond to your PMs about your other threads.  One of the joys and trials of forums is that everything can move a little slowly at times as people are scattered over different time zones and life gets in the way. 

Putting together your ons and offs page and request threads is largely a matter of personal taste and often looking around and seeing what others have done and what appeals to you is a good first step.  There are sections in The Tutorials section which go into some of the options and talk about some of the issues you've been having.  Customizing your Signature is especially good :-)

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #11 on: December 03, 2016, 06:47:48 AM »
Hi there, Icelandic. Elliquiy is a very welcoming community but as with any community it can take a while to acclimatise, make friends and find roleplays, particularly when it is such a large place. Not everyone is able to reply to their messages right away, we all have lives outside of this place. I would suggest patience in your approach.

You should have received a bunch of information and offers of help from your mentors since your approval. They are here to help you with all of these things. O/Os and flashy profiles are not made over night, it takes a while to create them and some of us (myself included) are still working on ours. I see that CrownedSun and RampantDesires have both given you some good places to start.

Me figuring out this site is just the half of it. I am also wondering what I did to violate rule 11 and get a thread I started locked. I didnt violate rule 11. And none of the mods have given me any explanation. One of them outright told me to ask someone else.

This is being discussed with you in private, it is not something for the public boards.

Offline IcelandicTopic starter

Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #12 on: December 03, 2016, 06:52:35 AM »
Ok... I just have a feeling I am going to be given the same copy/paste reply about it... I want to talk to the staff like they are humans, not robots. I dont want them to just read a script to me and call it a day.

Nope, it's a list of the things you like and don't like with your writing partners.

Lots of people do different things with them, anyway, but at its heart the O/O's tell you what someone is into. Then, you have the request threads and what not, which are used to list the specific RP ideas that someone has.

Myself, I tend to view the O/O's as more important, because I prefer to work on a story with my partner individually?

... That does just sound like a request thread...
Other people are more about doing their specific RP and thus are more into their ideas thread.

Both have their place and purpose.

So like a kink-list?
« Last Edit: December 03, 2016, 06:54:30 AM by Icelandic »

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #13 on: December 03, 2016, 06:53:44 AM »
Hi there, Icelandic. Elliquiy is a very welcoming community but as with any community it can take a while to acclimatise, make friends and find roleplays, particularly when it is such a large place. Not everyone is able to reply to their messages right away, we all have lives outside of this place. I would suggest patience in your approach.

You should have received a bunch of information and offers of help from your mentors since your approval. They are here to help you with all of these things. O/Os and flashy profiles are not made over night, it takes a while to create them and some of us (myself included) are still working on ours. I see that CrownedSun and RampantDesires have both given you some good places to start.

This is being discussed with you in private, it is not something for the public boards.

It's not being discussed at all though...

EDIT: And I am being patient.
« Last Edit: December 03, 2016, 06:58:29 AM by Icelandic »

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #14 on: December 03, 2016, 06:59:55 AM »
So like a kink-list?

If that's what you want, yes, lots of people essentially do that with their O/O's.

Though there's usually some nod to the medium, and discussion of what kind of RP's someone wants, rather than just listing off kinks.

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Ok... I just have a feeling I am going to be given the same copy/paste reply about it... I want to talk to the staff like they are humans, not robots. I dont want them to just read a script to me and call it a day.

Have you actually gotten copy/paste REPLIES about this stuff? I mean, yes, our initial PM's are just copy/paste stuff of the essential information and resources that a new member needs.

We, you know, sorta have to send those to every single member... ;)

If you've actually replied to your Mentors with questions and such, though, you'll talk to a real person.

I'll note, in fact, that I'm here talking to you like a person right in this very thread. ♥

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #15 on: December 03, 2016, 07:06:28 AM »
If that's what you want, yes, lots of people essentially do that with their O/O's.

Though there's usually some nod to the medium, and discussion of what kind of RP's someone wants, rather than just listing off kinks.

Have you actually gotten copy/paste REPLIES about this stuff? I mean, yes, our initial PM's are just copy/paste stuff of the essential information and resources that a new member needs.

We, you know, sorta have to send those to every single member... ;)

If you've actually replied to your Mentors with questions and such, though, you'll talk to a real person.

I'll note, in fact, that I'm here talking to you like a person right in this very thread. ♥

;D

Well I mean, that is what you made it sound like. It still sounds a little more like a request thread of sorts.

And no I am talking about the whole 'rule 11' thing. And what Rhedyn said for example is not true. The issue has not been discussed. As an example, I did actually PM her about it and she has not PMed me back.

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #16 on: December 03, 2016, 07:12:33 AM »
Quote
Well I mean, that is what you made it sound like. It still sounds a little more like a request thread of sorts.

If it helps you to think of it like that, by all means. ♥

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #17 on: December 03, 2016, 07:17:42 AM »
If it helps you to think of it like that, by all means. ♥

Well what then? Because you are telling me its kinda like this but then its not but its also like this a little bit and with a little bit of that.

I dont know what you mean at all...

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #18 on: December 03, 2016, 07:20:21 AM »
Well what then? Because you are telling me its kinda like this but then its not but its also like this a little bit and with a little bit of that.

I dont know what you mean at all...

No no, you're misunderstanding me. If you want to think of it as a request thread, by all means, that's perfectly fine.

Maybe it might help to think of your O/O page and your Idea's page as two different sides of a request thread? On one hand, your O/O's, you have a page that talks about what kind of person you are looking for and the kind of stuff that you'd like to have in the RP. On the other hand, in your Idea's/Requests thread, you'd talk about the actual story ideas and specific RP's that you're interested in.

Does that help clear it up any?

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #19 on: December 03, 2016, 07:20:56 AM »
Uh.... Ok? :/

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #20 on: December 03, 2016, 07:23:25 AM »
O/O threads are entirely up to the individual.

Some people use them for just a quick list of their kinks.

Others use them to store characters they like playing, stories that they're writing or want to write, or any combination of those.

There is no real right or wrong way to do them which can make it hard to explain. 

Do you want to make a list of your likes and dislikes? Awesome, do that :-)

Do you want to write out story ideas you'd enjoy?  Great, that works too :-)

How do I want to introduce myself to other writers?
  Might be a good way to approach it.  What do you want the people reading it to know about you and why you're here?

Offline IcelandicTopic starter

Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #21 on: December 03, 2016, 07:30:40 AM »
Ok... So like an introduction.

I suppose that works. I just need to figure out how to put mine on my signature. I want mine to look nice like the others here!



... Now I just wait for the mods... I still have not heard back from any one of them... Like, what is the point of participating in the more social sections if I try to follow the rules and my stuff gets locked anyways?

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #22 on: December 03, 2016, 07:33:42 AM »
Signatures are fun to play with :-)

I linked you the signature tutorial above which is super helpful. Once you make your thread it walks you through how to link it in your signature.  If  you're still having trouble getting it to look the way you want it to any of the mentors will be happy to help you with the coding to make it pretty.  We love getting PMs!

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #23 on: December 03, 2016, 07:35:09 AM »
My advice?

Find a nice friendly thread that looks like it's fun, stop in, and just chat with people. Participate.

You don't have to create a thread for each little thing, there's plenty of stuff going on already, and that also helps you meet people. (Which is the point, yeh?)

n' just be patient on the other thing, you're not being ignored, just trust that it'll be okay.

(:

n' the Signature thing isn't hard, I assure you, even I can do it.

Offline IcelandicTopic starter

Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #24 on: December 03, 2016, 07:36:28 AM »
I dont feel like participating in the social forms considering my last attempt at that got my thread locked.

Not even counting the embarrassment of having it still on the forum too. Thats not needed.

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #25 on: December 03, 2016, 08:19:27 AM »
Hey!
Don't worry and take it easy. It took me a long time to figure out how to do everything fancy shmancy and just yesterday I discovered a feature I had no idea about lol. Go slow, take your time. The tutorials ROCK.
If you stick around you will certainly make friends. It doesn't (always) happen overnight and you don't need boatloads of them.  Participating to already existing social threads definitely will help, as will having an O/O and a request thread (if you wanna RP already). I've been here since 2014. I knew no one in the beginning, though a couple people really reached out to me. It felt so big and overwhelming. I learned to navigate it ;)
The mods are real busy, but they reply to concerns. Just give them time!
In the end? No site is perfect, not even E though I'm a fan. But I don't know any other RP website that is half as nice, and I'm still in touch with friends I made years ago here.

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #26 on: December 03, 2016, 08:53:39 AM »
Hey Icelandic :) Sorry to hear you're struggling. If it helps, I'm newish as well, and it takes a little while for things to pick up. I found myself browsing through stories at the start. If a particular member's writing style caught my eye, or I found myself engrossed in the story, I dropped them a personal message. Sometimes certain members won't get back to you, because they may not be active anymore, super busy, or they might get so many requests that they just don't have the energy to respond to them all. Just rest assured that if you keep at it, someone will get back to you and you'll find yourself knee deep in a story :)

As for the Mods and the Mentors, they can get totally swamped. They have to send out replies and info constantly and, to top it off, they're probably working on their own stories too and just enjoying the E experience themselves. So if it takes a week or so for them to get back to you, that wouldn't surprise me, and I certainly can't blame them. Frankly I think they're absolute beasts for all they do on E.

While I'm not sure why your thread got locked, trust that having threads locked isn't something that happens very regularly, so try not to feel nervous that it will happen again. I know that's easier said than done, but as time passes everything will get more comfortable :) As for socialising, starting this thread up was a good shout. People on E are always eager to help out, so reaching out is a good way to get to know people

Offline IcelandicTopic starter

Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #27 on: December 03, 2016, 09:41:31 AM »
A week? Are you kidding me?!

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #28 on: December 03, 2016, 09:46:44 AM »
Mhmmm - I think the member list on here must be in the tens of thousands, and there are only so many people kind enough to volunteer to mentor <3

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #29 on: December 03, 2016, 09:47:15 AM »
I ALSO GOT KICKED FROM THE CHAT

I STOPPED

WHY!?

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #30 on: December 03, 2016, 09:52:42 AM »
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« Last Edit: December 03, 2016, 09:58:34 AM by Icelandic »

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #31 on: December 03, 2016, 09:53:34 AM »
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« Last Edit: December 03, 2016, 09:58:21 AM by Icelandic »

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #32 on: December 03, 2016, 09:59:34 AM »
I think things will feel a lot easier if you start cranking up the niceness with the mods and mentors. They're all lovely, but if they feel like you're breaking the rules in any way they have to be strict about it, otherwise E would fall to crap. I know it doesn't feel like you've been starting on them, but it might be worth shooting Dim an apology in PM. No guarantees, but he might let you back in SB.

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #33 on: December 03, 2016, 10:04:26 AM »
Oh... Nevermind. I missread it. She did actually lock me out of it... Why? I wasnt doing anything. I was stopping the argument that she was trying to instigate.
« Last Edit: December 03, 2016, 10:05:54 AM by Icelandic »

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #34 on: December 03, 2016, 10:06:53 AM »
THIS IS FUCKING BULLSHIT

ALL I WANT TO DO IS JUST INTERACT WITH PEOPLE AND TALK

I dont deserve this I just want to talk and have fun and be happy. I dont know why people are acting this way to me! Its not fair! I didnt do anything wrong to anyone. I was trying to stop but now this happened!

You have enough self awareness to know that you are pressing on people and to edit these posts, so you have that, I guess?

You would be doing yourself an immense favor to take the advice that people have given you here and elsewhere, namely to seek professional help. We cannot be your sole means of support.

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #35 on: December 03, 2016, 10:15:23 AM »
I know that. This all started from a misunderstanding in the first place. I was trying to seek emotional support from here, not professional help.

I did edit those because I did not want to start cussing in a public forum.
« Last Edit: December 03, 2016, 10:18:11 AM by Icelandic »

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #36 on: December 03, 2016, 10:32:52 AM »
Hello Icelandic!

A week? Are you kidding me?!

I did want to say that all of us are volunteers, who travel, work, have families and while we may look around, we might be on our phones or just checking in to make sure we don't have mentor work that is pressing.   No one on staff or the mentor team will ignore you, but we do request that you try to have some patience with us as we work through all the different tasks that are assigned to us.   Elliquiy is a huge site with a large member base and we also don't want to spend all our time on business.  We like to write too!

I am not generally a patient person myself, but there is value is having it.  If you've sent a PM or posted a request, it's good to be understanding that others may not be on your time schedule, may have something personal going on, or may just need time.   Reposting over and over that you aren't getting help doesn't invite others to want to help.  It makes them want to shy away because the impression is that if they aren't up to the 'quickness and standard' you may post upsetting things about them as well. 

All of the mentors would gladly offer our help, as we can, when our time permits.  You're welcome to click on my O/Os as well (see signature - My Pillowtop) to read what I've written about myself.   You will find that if you spend a little time searching you'll be more successful at understanding the site. Yes it's big and hell there are probably places I haven't been yet! It took me a year to get brave enough to even ask someone to RP with me (shocker yes outgoing doesn't shut up Mint was shy at first!).

But patience and understanding on your side will go a long way toward others being patient and understanding with you.

My PM box is always open.  That being said, I'm on vacation this weekend, I work a lot and phone typing sucks, so I will state up front I don't always answer immediately unless it's extremely important.

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #37 on: December 03, 2016, 11:02:26 AM »
A personal piece of advice: This is a really good site with a lot of great people on it. There are other sites out there, but so far I haven't found any as good as this one. It's a good place to hang out and spend time, make friends and write with others.

If you're getting annoyed with people or the mods, maybe it's time to take a step back until you don't feel that way. You might get away with a snippy comment here or there but conflict generally only leads in one direction. You're new here and they're still figuring out if you'll fit into the site's culture.

This is just one place but it's a good place, and people are just people. They don't necessarily hold all the answers. They can just give you opinions.

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #38 on: December 03, 2016, 11:09:08 AM »
I'm trying to be good... :'c

And I have talked to one of the mods and have cleared up a few things. It really was a misunderstanding like I said it was.

Offline ChandyMan

Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #39 on: December 03, 2016, 11:23:27 AM »
Hi Icelandic,

I'm brand new to this site...been on here less than a day, but I think you're now on the right track! Hopefully someone here can show you the ropes, and help figure everything out with you. Everyone seems to be super friendly so far! Hang in there, and I'm sure this place will grow on ya! :)

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #40 on: December 03, 2016, 02:15:03 PM »
Sweetie...being demanding will not get you anywhere..The staff and community here are really awesome..but sometimes finding rp will take time. You might also want to consider we are heading into the holidays and with the american thanksgiving and Christmas, A lot of people are not online all the time and might be slow to answer things..even the staff who most of them probably have family and other things to do to prepare for the holidays. I am not trying to be mean here but...you are sort of come off as I say you jump and we should say how high?

So calm down...be patient and once you get used to things you should be fine. Also I am sorry to hear about your mental health troubles but what you have been told is correct...you need to seek a doctors help. I had a friend end up in the hospital because he started hearing voices..but he never told anyone and he almost hurt himself and another one of our friends who had to pin him down until the ambulance came. At least you are willing to tell someone so good for you but no one on here is qualified to help with that. Being frustrated is all well and good...but well..how would you react to someone acting towards you how you are acting now? I am sure once you get used to things you will settle in nicely and find yourself some great partners.

Perhaps this seems a bit harsh but...I am not overly well known for my ability to handhold. I wish you luck and I hope you find the RP you are looking for and the help you need.


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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #41 on: December 03, 2016, 02:37:10 PM »
H'okay! So I've read through your thread here and I poked around your topics that you've started to see what you were referring to. I'm going to give you some advice from someone who had a troubled start here on E but has since found my way on the right track. You can take it or leave it, but it seems like you're in need of it.

If you want to RP, get an O/O thread set up. It doesn't need to be fancy with pictures and graphics and such. That will come with time and experience. But tell people who you are as a writer, what settings you enjoy, what elements you like to incorporate in your writing. Some people, such as myself, have a list of Yes/No/Maybe kinks on there as well. Nine times out of ten, someone will look for an O/O post to get to know someone before or during an RP plotting PM. You can always put that it's a work in progress and that it will be every changing as you get used to things.

This is optional, but a request thread is nice too. This is where you can post some OC's that you have, fandoms that you want to play in, or specific plots that you want to write. I personally have an introduction, a list of rules and guidelines for writing with me, a list of characters, a list of plots, a photo gallery with inspiration photos, and a spot for specific cravings I'm having.

As far as posting about your issues... this is a tough one. You have to be able to govern yourself and know what is acceptable and what isn't. It took me a while to figure this one out to be honest. The way that you were responded to isn't cold or like we don't care; in fact it's the opposite. We urge you seek medical attention because we care. You have to look at things objectively here. They can't let people use this as their personal support system. Yes, there are boards and thread for this, but they are to supplement any support you have outside of E. If you do have issues, you really should seek some sort of help and support out of E, whether it's a doctor or therapist or something like that. I have my own slew of mental and physical issues and I heavily rely on my team of healthcare professionals to help keep me straight.

Dealing with the mods/mentors. I know this was said before, but I want to reiterate it because I have first-hand experience with this one. Respect and manners go a LONG way with dealing with them. Say two people get suspended for the same thing. Person 1 is very apologetic, speaks with manners, and treats the mod team with respect while discussing their suspension and punishment. Person 2 goes off the deep end and flings obscenities, acts hateful, and generally disrespects the staff. Even though they got suspended for the very same thing, Person 1 is more likely to get off with a warning or something like that than Person 2 is. Like the age-old adage says, "Treat others how you want to be treated." You don't want the mods to scream at you and get angry with you (not that they would because they're more professional than that) so don't do it with them.

I'm sorry that your time on E has been shaky so far. This place is really great and it's probably the very best of its kind. I know I haven't been able to find anywhere that's even remotely close to E. There's a lot to take in on E, but you can do it. Just spend time to explore the boards and threads to acclimate to the place. Don't try to do everything all at once; you'll overwhelm yourself and end up in this situation again.

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #42 on: December 03, 2016, 03:29:06 PM »
Hey dear, I was confused when I first got approved what I suggest is look at request threads by other people to get some ideas on how I want to set up my own request thread. But before that make an Ons and Ofs thread to tell people what you like to rp and what you do not enjoy to rp. I also asked questions in the shout box even though I felt a bit silly but it sure was worth it in the end. Your welcome to take a look at my if you want down in my signature. It also helps to take some time to explore even though it may take you a few days to get things set up for yourself.

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Re: I do REALLY want to like this site but everything is fighting against me.
« Reply #43 on: December 03, 2016, 03:37:36 PM »
Ons and Offs are personal preferences and beginning with a short list of what you like to write about followed by a short list of what you don't like to write about can be good.  You can add a list of what you are looking for in a writing partner, too, as well as those things some of us might do that absolutely turn you off.  Keep in mind that this is in the nature of advertising yourself so you want to put your best foot forward in order to attract writers to your orbit.

Just remember it isn't carved in stone and you can add, delete and revise any or all of it any time you wish.  You can even rewrite the whole thing, post a new O/O thread and remove the old one.  Play with it.