Ok, I want to start this post with a disclaimer; I don't dislike someone just for having differing opinions then me.
If someone has a differing opinion then I do, discussion with them might expand my viewpoint and change my world view. It's not a bad thing to have a different opinion then someone else. It is a bad thing to think that the world only works one way, and people who think differently then you are somehow wrong. We are all products of our environment and our experiences, and no one alive has had the same experiences as anyone else, ever. You want to play a futa bunnyrabbit antrho who is into guro and knife play? Ok, not my thing, on any level at all.... but that's fine, that's your thing!
Ok, but there is one thing that I simply can not understand, I do not get, and I want to have a discussion about. It's something I see a LOT on the role-playing requests forums and in a LOT of author's "On/off" threads. For brevity's sake, it's "God modding" and how that's either an instant turnoff, or how any god modding will instantly end a game for that player. I just don't get this attitude. Yes, that's right, I'm about to defend god modding
, buckle up kiddos.
I understand that it can be highly frustrating to think that someone else is controlling your character
. How dare someone else make a decision that involves your character
? Who are they to know what your character
would say, do, or think? Right?
Notice the words repeated and bolded above there? "Your character"
I think this is the main problem with people who have this feeling that somehow a character belongs solely to them. I have news for you, it doesn't. Unless you're writing a story by yourself, you don't have sole ownership of a character in any story. If you are collaboratively writing with another player, or with several other players, they have at least some stake in the character as well. The very moment "your character"
begins to interact with a character written by someone else, the ownership of either character is now, at least to a fraction of a percent, owned by both writers. This website / forum is about collaborative writing at it's very core. It may be about smutty ERP, or it may just be some place you come for social interaction, heck, it may even be something else for you. But no matter why you come to this forum, you come here to interact with others. Whenever you enter into a RP with another player, you're interacting with them. Your ideas and their ideas are blending, creating a fusion between the minds of the two (or more) of you to create an original work of art. As such, their thoughts, their ideas, may include actions, speech, or thoughts that come from "your character."
By criticizing someone for "God modding" "your character"
in any way, you are essentially stepping on their creativity and limiting the story and freedom.
Now, let me pause for just one second and clarify. I'm not saying that you can't own a character. I'm not saying that you should let anyone just take control of a character that you are playing and do whatever they want. I want to be clear on that.
But what I am saying is that there is this pervasive attitude that I've seen in a lot of o/o threads and a lot of RP requests that have the essential attitude that even a mote of god modding will equal an instant game over. For example, You MIGHT read something like this in an o/o post :
I do not allow god modding. In the past I have dropped partners for writing that my character moaned. I write when my character moans, not you.
I'm sorry, but this seems SO extreme to me. I'm not calling out any specific person, because I've seen this attitude in many people's o/o posts. She is not unique in this line of thought. But I just simply can't understand the line of thought that went on here. A moan is quite often a small and involuntary action. Doesn't it sort of make sense that something like that SHOULD be written as out of your control? Now, I don't know the context of that particular example. But the way it's presented, it makes the author in question seem like a very overly protective, overly controlling, and overly possessive author.
I personally have been roleplaying for over 30 years now, starting my career in Dungeons and Dragons back in 1984. I've also been doing creative writing for even longer, and I remember the first few stories I ever wrote, sitting at my dad's electric typewriter, and banging out a silly story about people who lived in houses shaped like hourglasses. My first experiences doing collaborative writing came in the early 90s, and I've been a fan ever since. I mention all of this because I know a lot of people who read and use these forums are younger men and women. I know that the younger crowd tends to look at what is already up here on the forums, then mimic it. I also know that the attitude of possessiveness that comes with a hatred for anything 'god modding' is going to ruin your story.
You are here to do collaborative writing, share thoughts, share ideas, emotions, experiences, fantasies, and dreams. Don't cut them off, but explore! Now, if you are writing with another person, and they do something you don't like, guess what? You can send them a private message. Just tell them, "Hey you wrote in there that my character moaned, and she's actually trying really hard to resist making any noise, can you edit that out?" Then the co-author can very easily go back into the post, hit 'modify' and change what they wrote. If they respect you as a co-author, then they will be very happy to do so. If they aren't, then you might want to ask them why. They may have a VERY good reason! If however they just won't, maybe they don't respect you, and in that case THATS the reason to leave the game with them. Not because they god modded your character, but because they don't respect you as co-author.
Lets just remember one thing: We're all here to have fun, this is recreation for 99.99% of us. No one wants this place to be a drag or difficult. Lets all just lighten up on the concept of god modding, and realize that your co-author might have an idea that's worth exploring, even if it's not the same idea you had.
But maybe that's just a fantasy of my own, what do you think?
I made a slight edit just to change the tone to be a little less aggressive, apologies if I offended anyone