Doing revisions, are the secondary abilities being used and the flaws. I think I downloaded the right Guide to the Camarilla. Seeing if the Sabbat book has added useful Merits/Flaws.
Secondary abilities are permitted.
Merits/Flaws = permitted.
It does help for when I'm reviewing sheets if you mention which book they are from when assigning dots if you pick things not from the core rulebook.
In regards to sex: I like the option, but I think it's important that they take place in an independent threat. It's less about my modest sensibilities -- and more so that the plot/RP can proceed and doesn't get held up by the sex scene.
I'm fine with a separate thread for sexual content; it does make things easier for me as a GM. Most sex scenes would be reasonably private in an IC sense anyways and unlikely to influence to outcome of a major plot (unless the local Kindred are getting up to some particularly
Gah, I'm still debating 2 Tories for Rival Sires or a Tore and another clan, probably Tremere, because she's really smart...
Ultimately, I'd suggest picking what is most interesting/fun. Do you like the idea of a Toreador vs. Toreador rivalry more or a Toreador vs. Tremere rivalry more? One of them becomes an in-clan thing, the other certainly can make for a little clan tension.