the 12-step program is pretty much the blueprint that most if not all *A programs use. Alcoholics anonymous, Narcotics anonymous, Sex and Love addicts anonymous, Cocaine-users Anonymous, etc. Basically...
A twelve-step program is a set of guiding principles outlining a course of action for tackling problems including alcoholism, drug addiction and compulsion. Originally proposed by Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) as a method of recovery from alcoholism, the original Twelve Steps were first published in the 1939 book Alcoholics Anonymous: The Story of How More Than One Hundred Men Have Recovered from Alcoholism. The method was adapted and became the foundation of other twelve-step programs.
As summarized by the American Psychological Association, the initial steps were six as follows:
admitting that one cannot control one's alcoholism, addiction or compulsion;
recognizing a higher power that can restore sanity;
examining past errors with the help of a sponsor (experienced member);
making amends for these errors;
learning to live a new life with a new code of behavior;
helping others who suffer from the same alcoholism, addictions or compulsions.
So in depth, the twelve steps are:
The following are the original twelve steps as published by Alcoholics Anonymous:
We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
Continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
Having had a spiritual experience as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
Now for those of us who are non-religious, a few of these steps can be a problem. I, for one, dislike the underlining suggestion that it is in someone's most vulnerable state that you try and squeeze in a little bit of christianity. I feel that those who are addicts should be shouldered, not made to read religious books.
But nothing is preventing you from cutting out a couple of those steps and turning them into the 8-9 step program.
Being a former addict myself, I can tell you from experience that this stuff works.
One day at a time. When that is too much, half a day at a time. When THAT is too much, one hour at a time. Increment by increment, you keep away from the addiction. You step off. You go towards something positive, something good. You work harder, better, smarter. You avoid the old traps, the old gathering points in your mind. You build new roads in your life and in your mind. The people that help you? You keep them close. Those who don't help you? You don't keep them at all. You make some hard choices, but you do them for you.
So... Yeah if ever you needed some help about Roy and his addiction, I could always try to help. My thing wasn't alcohol, but addiction is addiction. You just change the poison.