So, in all my RPs, whenever there's a submissive partner, it's always a woman. The dominant is almost always a man, or in some cases a futa. In a very few cases, I've had a dominant female, but in all cases, the submissive is a female.
Now, IRL, I believe women should have equal rights to men. (I believe they should be issued draft cards too, but that's a whole other discussion.) I believe in equal pay, equal benefits, etc. I mean that. I do NOT, at all, believe men are superior to women in any way beyond certain flexible biological distinctions* and I try to treat women with respect in all cases. And in my relationships, it's always been equitable between myself and my girlfriend, both outside the bedroom and within**.
I guess since my fantasies tend to involve domination, and the women are always submissive, I have to ask whether that makes me somewhat sexist. I put it here so I can get opinions on that.
*Men can, generally speaking, develop more muscle mass than women (I can provide citations upon request, but please, don't request them) because, evolutionarily, it was the male's role to die to defend the female if necessary, because it was the female who carried his offspring.
**Okay, one exception, but we'll keep that brief, since it's a RECENT relationship and still rather painful. Simply put, she WANTED to be the submissive partner, and I obliged. But she wanted more than I could provide... point is, we couldn't afford a relationship under the terms she would have preferred.
The simple, short answer is: Definitely not. How could it?
The complicated, long answer is:
How you treat a fictional character, or what the fictional character you're playing thinks isn't a reflection
of who you are in real life, it's an incarnation of a particular fantasy. As long as you're aware that these characters and how they feel isn't in any way real, then how could it possibly be?
Some, for lack of a better term, new-age feminists might disagree of course. These are the same people who seem more focused on fighting for the rights of fictional women than real ones. The ones who would seek to ban any drawn or digitally crafted display of violence or sexual dominance towards women. I have to disagree with this mindset and say that it not only conflicts with Freedom of Speech but it also doesn't matter
if fictional characters have human rights because.. They're not human, they're drawings. Even wasps deserve more rights than a drawing.
Your stories have never directly hurt anyone, and you're clearly not carrying your characters views (Whatever they might be) over into real life.
Having a preference for submissive women isn't sexist as long as we live in a world where a lot of women have a preference for dominant men. As long as you still respect your partner, whether it be the person you're writing with, a real life partner or women in general, then no. No, you're definitely not
sexist. You have a sexual preference, but you aren't hurting anyone, and you're not saying that all women should have less rights than men or anything along those lines.
It's a bit similar to how a lot of people seem to consider anything BDSM-related non-consensual and inherently abusive or violent, when in fact a lot of people express a very deep and beautiful kind of affection and trust while participating in BDSM-play. I personally take offense to people who think that BDSM cannot and should not be anything but someone violently abusing someone in a grimy dungeon, because while that is one thing BDSM can
be, it can also be so much more.
But I have played openly misogynistic characters in the past: Does that make me
a misogynist? No, of course it doesn't. There's a difference between an expression
of an offensive message and a depiction
of something offensive.
But that's all just my opinion.