I think that it's important to understand that la dame is not saying that someone who disagrees with her is guilty of racism. She's not intending to personally attack anyone. She's not trying to say those who disagree with her are racist, but she wants to discuss some pretty difficult and powerfully influential experiences she's had, in RL and also in some RP, that have affected her adversely and why she thinks that seems to be the case.
It's a very difficult thing to open up about the types of experiences she's discussed having.
So la dame is talking about some very real problems she encountered in real life (separate a bit from the initial RP topic a bit, but she's had some bad ones when it comes to RP), and I think it is important to acknowledge that she's had these experiences. For example, when I read this:
Colorism is a huge thing in black communities. Often - black men and women(more often women) are ridiculed and put down if they're darker than what is acceptable. Parents will tell their kids to stay out of the sun, try skin bleachers, date a white or hispanic male/female so their grandkids have "light skin and good hair". In a lot of cultures being "dark" or "black" is ugly and that mindset is very toxic. This is why you have so many movements in different cultures to embrace loving who you are.
I had absolutely no idea this sort of thing happened. It was heartbreaking for me to read. I can't imagine what it would be like to be a young black girl and be told to use skin bleachers or have to leap through hoops about how to style one's hair or get lectured about the "right" race to marry, all because dark skin would be perceived to be somehow bad.
I can't imagine the devastating effect this would have on self-esteem, on one's perception of self-love and beauty, but...at minimum, it would be incredibly harmful.
For that matter, just for the record? I think black is beautiful, la dame. You are just as lovely as anyone else, regardless of skin.
I had one white male tell me that he would fuck me, but would never marry a black woman because he doesn't want his kids to be black, look black, or carry any genetic diseases african-americans may have.
This dude sounds like a colossal jackass. Grade A Jackass, for that matter.