Thanks. I would imagine that this is a problem faced more by the guys here then the women. Frankly, if my wife did this I would find it a turn on.
Wrong. There are just as many men as women who are insecure, uneducated, and otherwise uncomfortable with online roleplay - especially on adult sites. Elliquiy is pretty decent as far as keeping out people who want ONLY to hook up in real life (ick, I say) but not everyone understands that. Not everyone understands the roleplay/writing drive. Some people view roleplay of any kind as twisted, unnatural and wrong ... adult roleplay is just the worst of that genre, for them, or they already assume all roleplay is about sex.
Since you clearly don't share that opinion, at least not in the negative connotation, of course you would be turned on. You are already accepting of it, and you already know what it's about.
I am afraid she will think that it is more of a virtual affair. She got jealous when I was active on a board that was devoted to exercise that had more women then men posting.
You will have to make a choice, here. You can choose to continue lying to her (and yes, not to be judgmental but it's a lie by omission). You can choose to tell her about it, and risk her displeasure, and risk having to continue lying to her (probably outright after that, since she may ask if you're on this site again). You can choose to tell her about it, find out she is upset and displeased, and choose to adhere to her wishes and stop playing here. We have (had, in the third case) people here who have chosen any, all , or some combination of the above. We also have people here who told their SO and got the SO's blessing to continue here. I also know of at least three married couples who play here both together and with other people.
That level of jealousy suggests a lack of trust or lack of understanding, however, and it's unlikely you'll get a good reaction. However, if you act
furtive, you're guaranteed to get a bad reaction if/when she finds out.