People should discuss opinions on reproducing before sex, not after. If you opinions on becoming parents are opposing, don't sleep with each other. Find someone who agrees, so that if accidents happen you will be on the same page. If you have sex with someone who doesn't want kids, get pregnant, and decide to keep the child, that's not the other parent's fault.
I wish always it's for being so simple!
When I'm first with my daughter's father, I tell him I'm not on the birth control. He tells me not for worrying, he's got the vasectomy, so we don't need it. I still don't know if he lies about that. He lies about many things, to me though.
And maybe, I'm dumb for trusting him.
When I learn I'm pregnant, he tells me first for getting abortion, when I don't he says I must cheat on him, it's not his. I needed court DNA test, for proving he's her father.
He doesn't want being part of my daughters life, I'm ok, with that. But he does pay some child support. I needed going to court for that too though. If I could afford going with out financial help I would, but I can't.
But if some one creates a life, I don't think a parent can just walk away. Not unless someone else agrees for taking full responsibilities. Saying someone just gets walking away because they don't feel like dealing with responsibilities isn't fair to the child.