This is something I've been thinking about a lot. I'm going to take a risk and start posting just on this thread. Pers, if you hadn't started it on B&U, I wouldn't have seen it.
The concept of privilege and that you can only be discriminated against if you're not heterosexual Caucasian cismale has been going around for quite some time. In my experience, though, it's not quite how it works. Our current society seems to reward you provided that you fit seamlessly into whatever stereotypes and categories already have presented themselves.
I may be wrong on this. If I am, let me know. It's an idea I've been playing with for a while.
Regardless of your race, sex, gender, orientation or whatever, people seem to do the best when they fall right into the expectations of our society. Professional people are expected not to have tattoos, men are expected not to wear dresses and to ask the woman out, all the various stereotypes that we know are wrong but still expect people to fall into.
The ironic thing is that by pushing these particular concepts of crooked cops, acceptable racism and so on, that becomes what is expected and thus becomes reality. New people signing into the force just figure that they can do whatever, and it becomes acceptable.http://www.cleveland.com/metro/index.ssf/2014/12/cleveland_police_union_defends.html
SNL did a skit recently where a company wanted to make an Asian-American doll. People talk about a lack of diversity, but when something does happen, someone inevitably complains.
I have an RL friend who considers it sexist when video game characters do something to a woman when they do the exact same thing to a man. I've spoken to people who consider it perfectly acceptable for non-white people or females to start up groups wholly composed of their particular group, but for Caucasians or males it would be unacceptable.
In my experience, though, the vast majority of people want outright equality. Things don't have to end up equally but you have to be given the same shot. That means not dismissing people, but it also means not coddling people.
Another trend I've noticed, though, is the idea that only people of a particular category can stand up for others. People have repeatedly told me this one, but I can't find it in my heart to believe it.http://news.nationalpost.com/2014/11/26/white-supporters-stay-in-background-during-ottawa-vigil-for-michael-brown/#__federated=1
has a good example.
I've heard people using particular words and told them to cut it out even when they don't apply to me. If people are doing stuff against me, you are welcome to step in. When I was being bullied as a kid, I would have been very grateful to have someone step in and help me. If I met up with some sort of bigoted Amazon or something who honestly believed that men were inferior, I'd be happy to have a woman stand up and say otherwise.
I don't always feel comfortable doing so, though, because people have taken offense and said that I'm white knighting for them. I usually end up feeling bad if I hear people say something and am not sure if it's one of the things that it's acceptable for me to stand up against.
Some of this is stuff that I've been wondering about for some time. If I'm wrong, please tell me. I learn best when things are pointed out.