This. I've met straight females who could make Samuel L. Jackson blush with embarrassment. And from the look of things, they were quite comfortable with being females - I wasn't about to engage further. I've met men who were the soul of politeness and gentility - and could still kick your ass in PvP or on the field. And again, quite comfortable with being male. (Some of those 'bros' could take a page from that playbook - it would probably help their luck with women.)
There are cross-players - men and women who prefer playing the opposite gender, but have no dissonance regarding their physical sex or their sexuality. Some of them write straight, some of them write gay, some are polite, some are crude - you get the picture.
And I'm sure that there are some actual transsexuals who fit everything you described, while others don't. I have a few friends who aren't on here, who are either transitioning or would if they had the money/access/medical clearance. They are as varied as the other people I've described above. One is very meek and mild, one is brash and occasionally crude (not in as extreme a manner as you described - sie is a person I like being around after all), one is supremely self-confident and refined.
Elliquiy is one of the few sites that actively tries to disentangle ones sexual preferences and gender identity. Most others don't, and lying about one or the other may be seen as a way into otherwise unattainable areas - be it the woman who uses a male 'toon' so that other players take her seriously in WoW, or a man who uses a female 'toon' to take advantage of others; or even Tom Hanks and Peter Scolari trying to score an affordable apartment.
Up until I got back onto E a couple weeks back, I played almost exclusively female characters. I wouldn't think it has an effect or is affected by my sexuality, gender identity, etc, but I can't say one way or another for certain because, and if this statement makes any sense to anyone, "I live inside my own head." What I mean by that is that my perspective may be flawed but I wouldn't be able to tell because it is my perspective
. I have come up with numerous excuses to hand to people as to why I prefer to play, nearly exclusively, female characters, but in reality, I'm not 100% sure myself. In some way I feel like I can write a better female character than male one, which is of course entirely dependent upon my own ideas of gender. In other ways, I feel like it's easier to connect to the in-character situations and connect with others when I play as a female character. Neither of these things are because I know how women think or feel or act, but actually because I don't
know these things, and it allows me to stretch and develop my female characters better than the male ones because I am less inhibited by my own ideas of what constitutes a "female" as opposed to a "male" character.
I have quite often played "shemale" characters, that is, otherwise female characters that have swapped genitalia (not transgender characters). So... let me help you understand some of your bad stereotypes, Sheoldred...
I have a somewhat unrelated question pertaining MtF transsexuals among the ERP communities online. Well, mostly f-list, in some games like WoW, and a few other places since I haven't really had any encounters here on E.
Namely, there's quite a few people that I've met ONLINE in ERP communities who claim to be transsexuals but they've always left a rather bad impression upon me. Let me explain why...
They all share all of the following traits:
*They are heavily into futa stuff(they prefer to have a dick). They are often dominant or lean towards dominant.
*They are either 'lesbian' or highly prefer femininity over masculinity in their partners. Basically they -could- accept a 'femboy' but masculine men are a nono.
*They are heavily into gaming.
*They use lots of vulgar slang like 'get rekt, m8' and have a very vulgar sense of humour, which you'd expect from a 'bro'.
So what is my problem with them? Well, I always get this cognitive dissonance in my head... were these people really honest in their conduct of their gender? Because all of the above traits that I've listed apply to straight men. Women don't usually behave this way or have such preferences...
So I was wondering, could there possibly be people out there who are merely fooling themselves into thinking they are transgender out of some sort of self-hatred or other reason? I'm not meaning to offend anyone here but I've noticed this online 'fad' to diagnose oneself with ADHD or depression when the person is in fact quite healthy. However, their own belief in their mental illness can in fact cause them to emulate the symptoms which makes it hard -not- to diagnose them with depression or whatever.
I know this because I used to think I have mental problems too when I was younger but I was in fact making everything up as an excuse to not take responsibility for my own failures. I wasn't doing this entirely on purpose - life can be quite confusing at times and lack of experiences and feedback can lead one astray.
"They" do not prefer to have a dick and are heavily into dominant stuff. Personally, I pull out a "shemale" character when I'm in a dominant mood because I am more familiar with having a penis. It has everything to do with knowing what it is to receive a certain type of sexual pleasure. As a male, I have no idea what it would feel like to receive cunnilingus (well I mean I sort of understand what it must be like, but I couldn't possibly know the actual feelings and sensations there). I see being dominant to be, more often than not, the one receiving pleasure, and so that gets extremely dull and difficult to roleplay if I try to play a dominant female character. So what you are seeing, I could only assume, is not a massive number of "shemale" characters all being played by people who prefer to be exclusively dominant, you are seeing only half of those players' personality.
"They" are not always lesbian or prefer "feminine" partners. Statistically speaking, if most of these players are male, and most of those are straight, then it's perfectly logical to conclude that the majority of them would prefer partner characters of a more feminine variety. If you look at gender roles and society, you will see that masculinity is perceived as dominant... in the work force, in social gatherings, and in the bedroom. Personally, I do buy into that quite a bit, even though I probably shouldn't. At any rate you also have to consider personal attitudes toward different body types. Personally, I just don't enjoy bulky, muscular characters, so most of my male partner characters wouldn't be very strong or large, and more often than not, would not fit the dominant male archetype, since most of the more muscular male characters are used in dominant settings and the less so are used more in submissive settings. Basically this one boils down to personal preferences, sexuality, and the statistical probability that the player behind the character is a straight male. Have all of the ones you've interacted with told you specifically that they were transgender? I imagine that if you have an issue with this group, then you would limit your interactions and you actually wouldn't know for sure.
The idea that "they" are heavily into gaming, again, boils down to statistics. Though more women are playing games now, most of those who play video games are male. Nearly all of the online roleplayers own and use a computer on a day-to-day basis, many are on their computers all the time. People who are on their computers more often are more likely to be the type of people who enjoy playing video games, particularly computer games. I bet you would find that most rp's in-general play video games, and that it's not something specific to "them." Personally, I do enjoy video games. Statistically speaking, anyone you talk to online, more-so in online communities like these, is very likely to play video games, at least casually.
First off, that's not vulgar. I don't know how you came to the conclusion that it is vulgar, but you and I have a very different idea of what vulgarity is. As far as this alleged "bro talk," you are stereotyping, plain and simple. I certainly don't talk that way, not unless I'm making fun of someone who is. Yet I have seen many women use this language, and not just to fit in and be seen as "one of the guys." I don't know what your idea of a vulgar sense of humor is since our perception of the word are so clearly so very different, so I couldn't possibly comment on that.
The fact that you have a problem with "them" shows that you exhibit some pretty stereotypical views of people. I keep saying "them" because you seem to want to loop these players together, but the fact of the matter is that many of these players are just as diverse as any other random group of players. There is no "them." The only "them" here are those who loop a bunch of random players together based on a few misled assumptions.
Playing cross-gender characters or mixed-gender characters is not a sign of a confused gender identity. And playing characters of an orientation not your own is not a sign of a confused sexuality. You seem to have a very narrow idea of what a straight male should act like when playing characters online... and that seems to be that you think they shouldn't, and that if they do, it somehow makes them gay or transsexual.
I don't know why it is that you think that the majority of these types of players "misdiagnose" themselves as transgender. I'm not even sure what led you to believe that so many of them identified as transgender in the first place. I can only imagine that you must have a very small selection of individuals that you must be basing your findings on, because from what I've seen, based on my friends and my own personal experience, is that all of the things you described are unrelated, and you have a strange and woefully misinformed idea of the players behind "shemale" characters.