ningyou, I was not trying to single you out or anything, I was just sharing my thoughts on this subject.
It is safe to say the vast majority of employers (management positions and above) are not black (or minorities, for that matter). This means that minorities face bias - and a well-documented one at that. As a result, over the long-term, the goal is to create a society where management positions are equally represented by a variety of races. This is also why we encourage more women to enter engineering and science fields.
I never suggested that any minority should "talk like white people." All I said is that certain behaviors and personality traits are frequently associated with those who are successful in their careers. Look at people who have done well in life, whether it is international giants like Narendra Modi (the prime minister of India) and Alassane Ouattara (the president of Cote d'Ivoire) or simply minorities who have been successful in everyday life (working in management, accounting, teaching, medicine/nursing, etc). All of these people are successful because they know the importance of operating in a multicultural society, and avoid behaviors that insulate themselves along ethnic lines. When an African American uses the n-word when speaking with other African Americans, or dresses in a manner found in mainstream rap videos, they are essentially making a choice to not participate in the mainstream, multicultural society (a conglomeration of European, Asian, Hispanic, and Black cultures). Rather, they are making a choice to associate themselves with the image portrayed in the media.
To be successful in any career, it is important to present oneself in a manner that is welcoming and pleasant to all people. I'm not saying this is right, it's just the way of the world. The likelihood that a minority working in accounting is going to get clients of any race, dressing in saggy jeans and using the n-word, is very slim at best.
The point a few of us were making earlier, and from what I gather what Euron was saying, is that many of these negative associations within the black community have been artificially introduced through the media. It's a shame that these artificially introduced images have been embraced by much of the black community when it is predominantly white producers who are funding this.