From reading every ones comments it seems every one has ultimately different views on Objectifying. There for I have come to the conclusion it effects different people differently ranging from "Wha? It's ok to think im sexy." to "Im not a object to lust for." This to me means that before one try's to flirt, or become romantically involved in another they must gauge to what level this person would respond to your attempts to garner romantic attention. This is speaking from a man who seeks romance and companionship, not simply sex. If I were to speak of simply sex it is a whole new can of beans, making it pure objectifying. But since I would be seeking a companion, it is simply me naturally seeking a mate. MY own personal conclusion is, I understand what feminism is saying. And it is correct. Except objectifying in the form of attraction is not a bad thing. There is nothing wrong with a physical attraction to another. In fact, it is how one's romantic interest in another originates. How is one to have original interest in some one unless they are attracted to them? No, personality does not make truthfully for first impression due to the fact that unless your blind, you will always see them first then hear them. That said, one can also fall for someone they dont find attractive, but for the most part appearance is a human beings natural first step to choosing a mate.
However, I will chose to not accept this. Even if it makes sense in theory, I believe it is a damaging thing in practice. Sex is the most human part of being human after all, right? Procreate, it is the base goal of all life on earth. Humans may have a form of transcendence in comparison to animals but we are after all also animals. By the notion of Objectifying I should never consider the attraction I have for my partner, in spite of the fact that it is one of the most vital parts of a relationship. If you dont find your partner beautiful Edit:( Either physically or in personality.) why are you with her or him? This is not to shame different body types and such since after all we all have different tastes. IE: My older brother loves heavy set women, while my twin favor's lithe and small women. Im found more in between, a more all the right curvs in all the right places kind of mentality, with a small favor for women that are taller then me. I dont see anything wrong with sexual attraction, especially since it is a uncontrollable thought to do so. I assure you, Anita more then one point in her life got a little loss of breath at the sight of a ripping hot man at the side of a pool.
. Or, hot women. Not sure on her preference. But none the less, if your human your most assuredly going to find some one some where hot at some point in your life.
Edit: However personality is a big deal, and honestly what truly matters. many women I have found attractive ended up ugly in my opinion due to incompatibilities or certain weaknesses of character. (IE: Being mean or controlling of me.) In fact most my more successful relationships resulted from moving out of my comfort zone and dating some one id normally find out side my preferences.