Intent matters, it is in and of it'self silly to think saying a hateful word makes you hateful. If this was true then all comedians are racist. Loise ck is a homophobe, becous he says fag openly. Despite the fact he makes clear, it was just a word people used when he was growing up. It's not meant towards Gays, but actually meant to insult any one he finds acting Queer. (Another word thought of as homophobic. But really means odd or out of place. Which is why most homophobes did use it.)
How about Mencia, whom would openly make fun of Mexicans. Is he.... Racist to himself? Dun dun dun, raceception.
What if I was talking about the history of abuse most (Most.) Black slaves suffered from a majority (Yes, as in not all.) Slave masters. What if my below examination of history offended you?
A point of subject people refuse to recognize is that not all were treated bad, and though today African americans have integrated into society. And lead successful and or happy lives. Back when they were freed, their freedom did more harm to them then good. Many taking advantage of their ignorance to society, in order to take their money and lands. Not to mention, the fact that some simply found life easy'er at the hands of some one whom provides for their labor. Im not saying slavery is right, but I am saying at the time, they were case by case either to inexperienced in the real world to make the American dream a reality for them. Or, to indoctrinated by their slavery, and there by to reliant on being fed, or told what to do. (In other words. A lot had Stockholm.) Does it make me racist to see and understand the historical significance of it? Does it make me racist to point and say, not all were evil, that is jaded to think so. Does it make me racist to openly say the word, Nigger, means an ignorant or otherwise lazy and good for nothing person. And was only turned to be use on black people for the popularity of said slur. (Which is why today it is wrong.) Or to explain the difference between the similar word Negro, which actually means Black in spanish. You can call any one a N word. Even me, since I am lazy, and often good for nothing.
Is it offensive for me to tell you that in reality not all slave masters were bad people. And that not all slaves were happy with their freedom?
Case in point, it's not the slur that makes the man, but the man that makes the slur. Just because I said something, doesn't make me something hateful. It just makes me an idiot. (Unless the person is obviously being... Hateful.)
Bitch: A word people would immediately find offensive towards women. In spite of the fact men can be called one. Am I a sexist if I called someone a Bitch? Am I hateful? Nope. Bitch is my favorite slur to call someone whom is pissing me off or otherwise being ignorant. So excuse me while I slur like Jesse Pinkman.
To find a word offensive immediately without further examining the intent behind using said word is well... Wrong. It will make you look jaded. I will end this off with an example.
Dumb Cunt. 1. A woman who acts like she doesn't know a thing, therefore making a conversation totally impossible 2. A woman that constantly does stupid things. Those are the urban meanins behind that word. Though I will argue, because Cunt is a word used to offend both men and women. (Europe would call a man a cunt.) That this slur applys to both men and women.
Totally I am a sexist bigot, for saying the word, even if the intent was explaining the meaning. Forget intent, the second you hear an offensive word, drop all your kind intent, point, and say Sexist! Biggot! Homophobe! Without even trying to understand what a person is saying. I understand a lot of what I said is easy to determine as not sexist, or racist, etc. But, the point is you cant just stop and immediately call some one a sexist, if you didn't even stop to try and hear what he or she had to say. Im not saying it's right to say hateful things, but saying them doesn't mean you are bad. It just makes you ignorant, and having a bad personality trait to say something hateful to hurt. (Unless the person is all "Fuck all deez niggas, I gonnas shoot the next I sees...." Then, please do. call them out like no tomorrow.) My opinon, if you really think a person is a homophobe for saying Faggot. Then your Jaded. And need to work on that. Sorry if I offend, that's not my intent. Just, try not to view things so one sided and angrily.
Now, I will end this off by qoating the above post:
I could say that, but it'd be making a fairly big leap.
It'd be more on point to say you're insensitive - you're doing something "out of habit" that a fair number of people find pretty insulting because you're inured to it. You're not even thinking when you say it, you just say it.
In the end, forget anything I had to say and at least take this in to heart. This is far less jaded then saying they are hateful people automatically by saying something socially ignorant or controversial. (Pluss, I am like that, Im to used to the word Bitch. >_< Dam you breaking bad!)
Can we get back to what's the real topic? This is about Anitas videos. About how we feel they are right or wrong. Not feminism, or social beliefs as a whole. Id hate for this to turn into another Gamergate hate frenzie between feminists beliefs and those who find third wave feminism wrong. Because, its not that I hate Anita for her views. I hate her because she is an ignorant opportunist who spins the truth. And spills toxic beliefs hatefully vs all men. As well as gamers. This is Not because of one, or two things she has to say but because all of it is just jaded... And put together is saying all men want to hate on women, and abuse them digitally. Essentially, she is a sexist. Who spits on everything that is good about feminism. But, because she is a women, who says she is a feminist, she can not do wrong. Take Thunderfoots statements into account. "What if we flipped the script and a man was spilling this garbage? He'd be laughed off stage." I just wish people like her would be laughed off stage. Because while they say men are indoctrinated to do wrong, they are saying jaded things, teaching women to hate. Or otherwise fear men.
For every well worded and fair feminist like Emma Watson, or The Factual Feminist. There is 3 anitas, ruining the face of an otherwise good cause.