I really cannot tell if you are just arguing for the sake of arguing or if you just do not realize what you are saying. What offends me about this law and the Russian mentality is that it is not a matter of what people think about gays. This is a law that criminalizes a person for who they are. You say obey the law and live merrily... but the law demands that they hide who they are else they be thrown in jail, beaten or murdered. I cannot grasp how you even think this is the slightest bit okay. The whole 'don't care what other people think about you' would be something like don't care if people think you are fat. Or ugly. Or stupid. Or poor. Or uncouth.
The more I read this thread and see you defending this law, the more I think that you are doing so solely because you feel you have to defend your birth country. It really is the only thing that makes any sense to me.
Try to understand the basis for the ideology Dashenka is putting forth. I'm certainly not Russian.
There are thousands of human rights violations around the world, that go against our moral code of ethics, as Americans. We simply cannot, and perhaps more importantly, don't have the legal or moral authority to coerce other free-thinking, autonomous minds to think like us. We want to live in a free society, that guarantees Constitutional rights to every human being, and the freedom to love whomever one wants. But those moral and ethical decisions are specific to the United States borders. We made the choice to embrace those values as a country - and we expanded gay rights when enough people in this nation were able to overcome their biases, and feel ready to embrace that community as equals. Russia needs to go through that same process, and modify their laws as needed to overcome these biases - if indeed their citizenry wants to embrace it (because clearly the majority does not).
As an unrelated point, why is it that we are unable to project our moral values into ending other severe human rights violations around the globe, such as the treatment of women in the middle east, or child laborers in Asia? It's because we simply don't have the legal authority to coerce other governments to change their laws to mimic our values.
Bolivia has no "legal" age of consent, only informally defined as after puberty. I find this horrific and disgusting - and clearly it goes against our moral ethics - but I have to simply accept that their country wants to make their laws differently than ours.