Deep in the 80's to 90's there was an arc in Ironman in which Tony Stark's drinking got bad. REAL bad. Down to the point where he would black out, and even when he was Ironman, to the detriment of the state of New York.
Don't know about you, but I don't want to have an addiction problem as part of a power fantasy.
And there was a cute arc, where Superman gets his responsible nature stripped away from a magic kryptonite crystal. Which was actually kinda scary, but he really ended up being like a big kid. So Batman goes on a mission to rescue his friend by finding the opposite crystal in a Volcano. Now this Opposing Crystal suddenly fills Batman's mind with everything he ever wanted. And you know what? Justice and removing all crime isn't remotely what he ever wanted. Mommy and Daddy being alive, and a girlfriend, were his deepest darkest desires. And in the end, even Superman never realizes that. And all Batman wants is love and family, just like every single human being out there. So much for being a badass.
As for Jessica Drew (Spiderwoman) she's got issues of her own, and most of them have nothing to do with the problem that her pheromone powers make going out for donuts an exercise in concentration. She's currently (I believe) a triple agent working for S.H.I.E.L.D, Hydra and the Avengers (or was at one point), she was kidnapped and replaced by a member of the Skrull alien race, and possible tortured (Like all other heroes they've caught, the Skrull aren't very nice to their prisoners, including of their own race.) And that's not considering that her own powers make it possible to induce a fear driven heart attack into any guy if she's really pissed off.
This whole argument of 'objectifying' women in various mediums, I'm just not seeing it. And I'm in the middle of them. I'm a nerd and a geek, I STILL collect comics, I play video games on a regular basis, I play D&D and other table top RPGs, and the only time anyone gets upset about this seems to be when they see ONE tiny thing off the corner of their and it sets them off. And often blow it out of extreme proportion and usually out of context.
And because I'm in inundated with all these hobbies, I scrutinize, I look for flaws, I make damn sure that what I get for my limited money is WORTH the money, and shallow characters, asinine comedy plots and other idiocies. And I've been doing that since I was 11 years old.
Comedies are the worse things, because it's supposed to be funny, you can get away with racism, sexism and other cruelties. I SAY NO, it's NOT OK.
One more thing that's getting up my craw, this whole 'Women in Refrigerators' movement lambasting the comic industry for showing women getting assaulted. Is it horrific when it happens? HELL YES. And what do you think most comic reading boys think when they saw Kyle Rayner's girlfriend murdered and stuffed into an ice box. You think we were giggling and masturbating to it? NO. We want to kill the fucker who did it. We want grab Major Force and beat the living shit out of the bastard for doing it, in all the worse and most painful ways we could think of.
The sad fact of the matter is that women are often targeted the world around because they're seen as weak. And most men have been programmed for the past several hundred thousand years to feel protective of them. Why do you think there's a movement wanting to stop worldwide violence against women? Because BOTH men and women see it as a worse wrong than killing another man. Women are to be protected, and this thread is a primary proof of this. At the same time, this is also used for a story effect, and it works. It gets people upset, men and women. You want to show a bad guy being really bad? Have him target women and children.
I grew up in the 80's watching kids cartoons, and most of them had these morality plays at the end, warning us kids about dangers, like strangers, odd looking syringes and the like, and frankly, I'm pretty sure that a lot of the comic writers ALSO grew up watching G-Force (AKA Battle of The Planets) or He-Man, or She-Ra and the like, and whenever they use such a situation (the aforementioned Women in Refrigerators) it's there not to titillate, it's there to galvanize and show that beating on those weaker than you is WRONG.
But no, we'll just sit here and accuse other people of getting off on 'objectifying' women, because we decided that we're going to get offended about something, without actually looking deeper.