What I said was my personal tastes in men. You expect me to apologize for that?
No. I'm trying to draw attention to the fact that you think that strength and force are masculine, and softness and prettiness are feminine. These
are the cultural traits I'm highlighting, and the problem is not in your taste
, the problem is that your taste is distinguished by cultural norms
which are hurtful to men and
women -- and not because of you
, specifically, but because they are pervasive throughout our culture.
You're an adult, and I don't think it's really in any adult to significantly change their taste through force of will. I don't think you should apologize and I don't think you need to change. I think we should change our attitudes about certain traits being "masculine" and others being "feminine" because those ideas are foundational to so many gender issues in our culture.
tl;dr, the issue not that you like strong men, the issue is that you think that a man who is less strong is "feminized", and so do so many other people that it becomes culturally accepted that women have to be weak, or if not have to be, then are by default.
Edit: and, equally, it inspires our culture to treat men who express those "feminine" features as if they're somehow not really men, as if having soft features and full lips is transgressing some kind of barrier. That's how we get to ripped, topless men on unicorns selling body spray, saying, "You're not man's not me, but at least he could smell like me!"
edit 2: Exact quote: "Anything is possible when your man smells like Old Spice and not a lady.