First off, please excuse any errors that may occur, I am using a touch screen cell phone and it can be a bit...touchy.
This is about Submission and Domination, though it will be pg13. Also this applies to how I feel and see it, and is NOT a criticism on others' view.
Why is it when I tell a man that I am Submissive, he feels the need to be domineering, insulting and superior to me? I am not a "pet" or a "slave" and you are not my "master" or my daddy. I do not hold much by titles. I am not some petulant little girl who is going to "misbehave" to be punished or whatever. I am a woman who prefers a strong, dominate male. I guess you can call him an "Alpha Male" if you must. I want to be loved and cherished as a woman should be.
I believe if men hadn't abdicated or abused their responsibilities as the Head of Household, the women like me would not feel the need to step up into those shoes. Women do not need to be beat or subdued out of punishment. I fell if that is something they BOTH enjoy, then by all means do it. Also, when you make that.commitment to be someones Dom, it does not mean she.is something you only set aside for playtime when you want. It is not a free chance to cheat. It is a very special and intimate relationship that must be upheld with the same care and respect as any other relationship, if not more. That woman is giving her all to you, giving you control over her life and care in all aspects.
Now, this also does not mean that you cant have romance in this relationship. For myself, I enjoy the build to the "main event". Just because I am Submissive does not mean I can not be courted or romanced. I am a hopeleas romantic. I want that build. I want that time to build my trust in you. That's a big part in this relationship. It takes trust in your Dom that he will not harm you or destroy you when you are giving yourself to him.
I read.this line in a book of mine: "It takes a strong woman to submit herself.fully into the care of her man."