I think we expect more from the people than the bear, because people, unlike the bear, have the self-awareness to say, "I know this is wrong, I won't do it," despite their instincts telling them to do something. A bear will simply live according to it's drives and instincts without that same level of awareness. I expect more
from a human being than I do from a bear.
I don't think our "free will" is limited by circumstances beyond our control, it just means that we have to determine how we are going to choose to react to those things. Will we accept, them, fight against them, pause and wait to see what happens next? Things like our sex, our parents, our family are all things we don't choose but we do get to choose how we react to those things. This might just be a matter of semantics and POV on free will though.
Let's be realistic, people are
capable of fitting into the "norm" if they choose to. For generations it's what they did regardless of how they might have personally felt about it, because to not
fit into the norm could mean being ostracized from society or death depending on time period and the culture they were from. In some places in our own world it still means that. Part of the problem we face today is that a lot of the rule (particularly those of the Abrahamic religions) were made for a tribal people of small numbers trying to survive in a desert. In that time, in those circumstances, life was about survival and if everyone didn't do their part to contribute to the tribe (including via procreation) then the tribe could die out. A prohibition against sex that didn't aid in procreation does make some sense when survival of an entire people is on the line.
The problem is that these rules got codified into a religion instead of being allowed to stretch, and expand, or simply break, as they became unnecessary. We obviously don't have a need, in our current place in the world, for every man and woman to pass along their genes. We have enough people on this world that survival isn't really an issue and neither is genetic diversity. The old taboos seem, and are, silly for our
circumstances. Unfortunately, religious fanatics have decided to cherry-pick which rules are still relevant and which aren't.
I think this clip from the West Wing
is a good example of such rules that no longer fit our current world. It also just amuses the hell out of. :)
I'm going to just flat disagree about religious twits not choosing to be religious twits. I know a number of people of faith who are not religious twits at all because they choose
not to be. They know the background of their faith and have chosen faith in a Diety that makes sense to them, while discarding rules that make no sense for people in a modern world. Being a close minded, ignorant twit (religious or otherwise) may not start out as a choice. It may start as it simply being the way you were raised, but when you are presented with information counter to what you thought you knew, and choose to bury your head in the sand against it, then being an ignorant twit has
become a choice.
I was actually going somewhere with all that but I got distracted by my mini and have lost it! lol If I remember the end point I was going toward I'll come back and edit, but for now I'll just leave it there. :)