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Offline GreenthornTopic starter

Romance? What is it?
« on: May 25, 2008, 02:31:33 PM »
Just had a wonderfully deep conversation with someone about romance and realized everyone has their own opinions about it. (used with permission with name removed)

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Them: I like romantic
GreenTh0rn: Hmmm most romantics turn too sappy for me..they never bounce back to who I thought they were
Them: Good romance isnt sappy
Them: Good romance is dark, or powerful or wild
GreenTh0rn: Romance is old fashioned...which i love...but like i said those who have done/said romantic things to/with me..when they see how much i love it..they STAY there..get all whiney and such..and god knows i cannot handle a constantly whining man
Them: Romance is giving a single blood red rose, kissing neck softly. Then making passionate wild love. Romance is pushing your loved one up against a wall whispering in her ear and biting her neck before you take what is yours
GreenTh0rn: romance is also private jokes and knowing looks exchanged

So my question is...how do all of -you- define "Romance"?

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Re: Romance? What is it?
« Reply #1 on: May 25, 2008, 03:12:08 PM »
Being familiar enough with the way the other party's mind works to know what makes them feel special/desires/loved... and then going to the effort to do it.

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Re: Romance? What is it?
« Reply #2 on: May 25, 2008, 03:13:21 PM »
Being familiar enough with the way the other party's mind works to know what makes them feel special/desires/loved... and then going to the effort to do it.

Yes! The effort..and continuing it..not just occasional!

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Re: Romance? What is it?
« Reply #3 on: May 25, 2008, 03:18:11 PM »
And not only when it's pointed out that they haven't been making any effort ;)  The thing is, it goes BOTH ways... women who sit back and expect it to be an unbalanced effort need a bitchsmack! 

Also, always trying to find new things to explore adds a lot to the picture.  Who knew that buying a new paddle was romantic? *giggle*  It's not something one would find on one of those useless fucking lists of ways to be romantic in Cosmo magazine.

Offline Cherri Tart

Re: Romance? What is it?
« Reply #4 on: May 25, 2008, 03:21:29 PM »
romance... going out of your way to do something wonderful for your loved one, something that only means something to you because if means so much to them, and fully investing yourself in it.  If you hate baseball, but your SO loves it, then taking them out to the ball park, and not just enduring the game, but really putting all your effort into enjoying it - buy hot dogs and beer and root for the home team, learn the rules, wear the team colors... a silly example, i know, but that's really what makes me feel romantic.  Knowing that someone loves me enough to try to want to be a part of something that means the world to me.  It doesn't all have to be candle lit dinners and soft light.  Sometimes it's just sitting thru a movie that you don't care for and enjoying it soley because it is your SOs favorite movie. 

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Re: Romance? What is it?
« Reply #5 on: May 25, 2008, 03:24:26 PM »
And not bitching about having to sit through it is pretty romantic as well *giggle*

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Re: Romance? What is it?
« Reply #6 on: May 25, 2008, 03:30:35 PM »
Romance to me is making someone feel loved for just who they are.  With all their flaws and perceived "problems".  that often means helping to talk them out of dark places on a few occasions, but that's what makes the bond you build even more special.

Offline Cherri Tart

Re: Romance? What is it?
« Reply #7 on: May 25, 2008, 03:33:00 PM »
And not bitching about having to sit through it is pretty romantic as well *giggle*

*smiles* that's the key - sitting there and trashing my movie won't win you any points! ;D  and those simple touches of getting up early and making breakfast for your loved one, leaving notes where she'll find them during her day and it will make her smile, filling her tank with gas the night before so she doesn't have to do it on the way to work and leaving a flower on the passenger seat for her.  :)

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Re: Romance? What is it?
« Reply #8 on: May 25, 2008, 03:37:52 PM »
Romance to me is making someone feel loved for just who they are.  With all their flaws and perceived "problems".  that often means helping to talk them out of dark places on a few occasions, but that's what makes the bond you build even more special.

Actually, for me loving someone for just who they are is part of the definition of loving them :)  Being there to help them feel special at times when they can't see that they are is about being supportive more than being romantic, imo.  I'm not saying you're wrong, aviationrox, just sharing my thoughts.

Offline GreenthornTopic starter

Re: Romance? What is it?
« Reply #9 on: May 25, 2008, 03:52:26 PM »
*just smiles at everyone having a nice conversation for once*

Thanks all ;D 

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Re: Romance? What is it?
« Reply #10 on: May 25, 2008, 04:00:25 PM »
I wish people wouldn't take honest discourse so personally... I feel like my efforts to be clear and honest intimidate some people and make them feel that I'm not 'playing nice'.  Thank you for a topic that isn't as volatile as some of the latest have been :D

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Re: Romance? What is it?
« Reply #11 on: May 25, 2008, 04:01:10 PM »
Sometimes romance is just tucking in your loved one and laying beside them on the bed, even when you're not tired and you have a million things to do, just so they don't fall asleep by themself. :)

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Re: Romance? What is it?
« Reply #12 on: May 25, 2008, 04:02:53 PM »
Mmmm... that's a good one, Cherri! :)

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« Reply #13 on: May 25, 2008, 04:10:36 PM »
*shy smile* my g/f usually goes to bed much earlier then i do, but i make it a rule to be with her until she slips off into slumbers.  It's important, to me. 

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Re: Romance? What is it?
« Reply #14 on: May 25, 2008, 04:14:05 PM »
Thank you for sharing... I'm going to make an effort to do that for my husband on the nights I stay up late since I don't have to work all five weekdays.

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Re: Romance? What is it?
« Reply #15 on: May 25, 2008, 04:15:22 PM »
I wish people wouldn't take honest discourse so personally... I feel like my efforts to be clear and honest intimidate some people and make them feel that I'm not 'playing nice'.  Thank you for a topic that isn't as volatile as some of the latest have been :D

Moon..you are ...oh nevermind I will PM you my thoughts *smiles*

And you're welcome..it was my full intention to lighten things up  ;D

Offline Cherri Tart

Re: Romance? What is it?
« Reply #16 on: May 25, 2008, 04:15:27 PM »
*hugs Moon* sometimes there are unexpected consequences, too, which are just as romantic ;)

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Re: Romance? What is it?
« Reply #17 on: May 25, 2008, 04:43:57 PM »
To be romantic is to show someone you care. Be that a kiss on the cheek, the odd extra touch no matter how innocent it is, to more impressive acts of affection. CT's example of lying in bed while her partner fell asleep frankly left me speechless.

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Re: Romance? What is it?
« Reply #18 on: May 25, 2008, 04:53:00 PM »
I like to IM my husband random thoughts I'm having about him....

"Tonight I'm going to worship your cock with my mouth, just because I love you."

"The curve of the back of your thigh makes me want to run my hands over every inch of you, ending there."

"You're a wonderful father... even when our teenager makes me want to wring his neck until he turns blue!"

And I love to surprise him by buying him a container of fresh berries and taking them to him at work :)

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« Reply #19 on: May 25, 2008, 04:54:52 PM »
*hugs* Moon. I am momentarily totally in love with you for sharing those thoughts.  :)  thank you. 

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Re: Romance? What is it?
« Reply #20 on: May 25, 2008, 04:57:45 PM »
*blush*  You're welcome :D

Offline Swedish Steel

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« Reply #21 on: May 25, 2008, 05:01:16 PM »
Yeah, Moony has plenty of excellent thoughts. :)

Offline Elvi

Re: Romance? What is it?
« Reply #22 on: May 25, 2008, 05:02:32 PM »
So....me sending Strangely a PM saying 'make me a cup of coffee you smelly arsed git' is romantic too?

Seriously, I see what you are expressing is love, affection and reminding others that they are appreciated and you 'need' them, not romance.
However, ask me what 'romance' is and all I can see in front of me is the stereotypical hearts and flowers type rubbish.

So in the end, who cares what the word is as long as the deed or sentiment is there?

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Re: Romance? What is it?
« Reply #23 on: May 25, 2008, 05:04:57 PM »
Which goes to show that what's romantic to one person may not be to another :)

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Re: Romance? What is it?
« Reply #24 on: May 25, 2008, 05:05:17 PM »
So....me sending Strangely a PM saying 'make me a cup of coffee you smelly arsed git' is romantic too?

Seriously, I see what you are expressing is love, affection and reminding others that they are appreciated and you 'need' them, not romance.
However, ask me what 'romance' is and all I can see in front of me is the stereotypical hearts and flowers type rubbish.

So in the end, who cares what the word is as long as the deed or sentiment is there?

i thought the whole point of romance WAS expressing love,affection, and reminding others that they are appreciated?  i mean, anyone can send flowers, but it's the thought behind it that counts, gives it meaning.  :)  and, honestly, calling Stranglley a smelly arsed git, could be - it depends on how it was intended. ;)