You implied that we might be fascist because we banned a guy who admitted that his modus operandi was to take advantage of vulnerable women, calling it a violation of free speech.
While I'm not big on shutting down criticism (and have told people so), it can be very frustrating to read a tirade whose very premise is invalid. In particular - what was specifically sexist about what he wrote? The genders could easily be and occasionally do get swapped. Like many high-functioning sociopaths, he likened himself specifically to a predator, and tended to reinforce that imagery.
Elliquiy not being a democracy, we owe nothing to such people. Letting them stay is never worth it.
Vekseid, you are welcome to post here any time you want, about anything you want, and your opinion matters to me. In this case, however, I don't know how to respond to this or if you even want a response. As you probably know, I hope, I am already discussing this matter in private messages with a different member of Elliquiy's staff. I assumed that the conversation was happening in private because that was the preference of the staff. Your comment here has raised the issues in this public context. Am I supposed to respond both in public and in private to both conversations?
I was just told (privately) that I made a mistake by addressing the other person as an individual person instead of as a representative of the collective staff. I apologized for doing this but don't really understand what that meant, and I told that person so. Are both of you speaking on behalf of the staff, or is one or the other of you addressing me personally? I was also told that I was "personalising" the situation and potentially causing unnecessary and unwanted "drama" as a result. Your post here mentions a specific and personal human emotion -- frustration -- that you feel or felt. I appreciate your candor and do not find the reference inappropriate, except that this mentioning of a personal feeling seems to be the same sort of thing I was just reproached for doing by another person representing the staff. I told him that I did not intend to inappropriately personalize our discussion, but because the issues underneath the conversation are extremely important to me personally, it's only natural for me to feel moved by the conversation and to try to make my case forcefully. I have tried and will continue to try to be calm and respectful and polite throughout, regardless of the outcome. I'm just saying that this aspect of your post here seems to directly conflict with that part of the PM I was just sent by a different staffperson, so I am at a loss for how to reconcile the seeming contradiction.
None of this discussion needs to take place for my sake, as I have already told the other staffperson in the other conversation that my decision about how to respond to this overall situation has already been made, and the only thing I need now is a simple "yes" or "no" from that staffperson about one specific request I have made.
My personal impression is that I am among a handful of Elliquiy members who are not wanted here by the staff but nevertheless slip through the cracks of the vetting process for membership because the reasons I am not wanted are not openly addressed during that process, nor are they likely to be. Those people who hold certain views not shared by certain staffpeople are not welcome at Elliquiy and will not be treated with the same consideration or respect as everyone else here. I've learned this firsthand on multiple occasions now and seen it happen to others on multiple occasions. I am not a staffperson and do not feel that I have any power or say over the way Elliquiy is run, nor do I feel that my critical opinions about Elliquiy can be openly expressed -- even with politeness and all due respect -- even with friendliness and affection and positive, constructive motives -- without getting inappropriate responses from the staff, ones I cannot even protest or point out without getting further such responses.
In light of these unfortunate and undesirable circumstances, which I believe I have understood correctly, even though I assume the staff would disagree strongly with my understanding and my claims, I have already decided to stop blogging at Elliquiy, just as I previously decided to stop posting to the PROC section, for similar reasons. Most of the other people who like me discover that they are not welcome at Elliquiy and who find themselves receiving unfair treatment due to their personal views simply go away. They don't want to fight or cause drama. Neither do I. I assume that I can continue to RP at Elliquiy without any problem as long as I keep my mouth shut about certain things, so I plan to do just that.
I like Elliquiy a whole lot in spite of its faults or my negative experiences here, which have been relatively few and far between. I hold the site and its staff in extremely high regard. The sincerity of that view of mine has already been directly questioned in private, and yes that hurts my human feelings, and I also consider it inappropriate, but I can't prove my sincerity in any conclusive way, except to point out that I wouldn't waste anywhere near this much time or effort having discussions about things I don't care about with people I don't care for. I am sorry if it is inappropriate for me to assert here and now that I like Elliquiy and its staff, but from my perspective at least, it seems relevant and not inappropriate, since it indicates part of my motive for even having these discussions.
I would prefer to conclude this discussion either in private or in public but not both, and I would prefer to conclude the discussion with just one staffperson rather than two. I hope that will be possible. Thanks.
I appreciate your views and your decision to share them with me in a polite and candid way. I will try to respond to you in private eventually, but I have other things I want to get done before then involving conversations with other people at Elliquiy, so I must ask you to be extremely patient about getting a response. Thank you, sincerely.