Any employer, college, church, union, media community etc demanding that a member MUST be active on Facebook (if that is what some of these henchmen are asking?) and then demanding friend status for themselves to see whatevere you put up, should have a *lot* to explain. And they should have to do it in public, to the open media (not on FB, that is).
I am not on FB in any sense these days, never held a facebook acoount linked to my "vanilla self" and have serious issues with the lack of transparency when it comes to one's privacy on FB. For one thing, why can't a member who is being approached by others check out who they are, where they live (if they haven't stated it on the open-to-all part fo their profile) or, like, give them a "trial friend status"? The obvious idea, from FB:s owners, is to encourage us to instantly accept most of those who ask for friend status and maximize sharing of personal updates, because that help the sales of ads and info to their advertisers, but this doesn't square with how I go about handling friends and other people in an unknown environment. Online or offline.